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<blockquote data-quote="DazedandConfused" data-source="post: 483928" data-attributes="member: 831"><p>Mine was a mixed bag. I don't post here a lot, so not many people are familiar with my story. Anyway, Son is always horrible to Daughter. Meal time is the worse, and Thanksgiving is no exception. I've gone over with him time and again to be kind; he says he just can't; she's never done anything to him. It doesn't help that Daughter has such a hair trigger with him and over reacts at each slight provocation. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, Son went with my Mom to my sister's 300 miles away. I suppose in the "normal" world, this would be awful, but in my world, I was actually relieved. But, there was still fireworks because after warning Daughter about doing more around the house and never cleaning her filthy room, sleeping until noon (she's was on break), leaving my car that she uses a mess (I've barely driven it in two years!), she wanted to use my car to see some friends and I said "no". She went into a hysterical meltdown and pulled all the stops to try and manipulate me to change my mind. I remained calm and with husband home, we stood our ground. She's 20 and still wants to live like she's 14. I warned and warned, and I guess she didn't believe I would actually pull the keys. She lives so close to her part time job she can walk. We also have a bus stop close to our house. You would have though I asked for her right arm when I suggested she start using the bus to get around. I thought back to when I was 20 and working. No car and I took the bus! I lived on my own too, on a very meager salary. </p><p></p><p>I realized that I'm not doing her any favors by continuing to allow her to live as our "child" in our home. She's been dragging her feet about going back to school (she's scared), and getting her broken computer fixed (which is her excuse). She was going to CC and did three terms, but nothing college level because she screwed up so badly in HS. She stopped when she decided to attend elsewhere. So, there's on online school that's good for what she wants and I'm very familiar with it. But, she's just dragging and dragging....</p><p></p><p>She can drag..(for now), but she's not driving my car while she does it. </p><p></p><p>After much screaming and crying (while I'm making turkey and the fixings), she collapses in bed and falls asleep. Of course, not before declaring that she doesn't want to spend her Thanksgiving with ME. "Fine, suit yourself", was my calm reply. She did come out though when it was time to eat and the days afterward she has had time to reflect. We've talked, but she doesn't like listening to what I have to say. She just wants to talk. So, I guess I'll see what happens.</p><p></p><p>Sorry, don't mean to ramble on about me. I'm glad you had a peaceful Thanksgiving with husband. I love the story about the Xbox! I've seen all the specials (Amazon had one today for it, too), but just not quite ready to buy one. I understand a new system is coming out next year. Hence, the sales. </p><p></p><p>It amazing the contrast between a difficult child holiday and a difficult child-less holiday, ain't it? I know if Son had been here with all of Daughter's drama, oh it would have been so much worse.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DazedandConfused, post: 483928, member: 831"] Mine was a mixed bag. I don't post here a lot, so not many people are familiar with my story. Anyway, Son is always horrible to Daughter. Meal time is the worse, and Thanksgiving is no exception. I've gone over with him time and again to be kind; he says he just can't; she's never done anything to him. It doesn't help that Daughter has such a hair trigger with him and over reacts at each slight provocation. Anyway, Son went with my Mom to my sister's 300 miles away. I suppose in the "normal" world, this would be awful, but in my world, I was actually relieved. But, there was still fireworks because after warning Daughter about doing more around the house and never cleaning her filthy room, sleeping until noon (she's was on break), leaving my car that she uses a mess (I've barely driven it in two years!), she wanted to use my car to see some friends and I said "no". She went into a hysterical meltdown and pulled all the stops to try and manipulate me to change my mind. I remained calm and with husband home, we stood our ground. She's 20 and still wants to live like she's 14. I warned and warned, and I guess she didn't believe I would actually pull the keys. She lives so close to her part time job she can walk. We also have a bus stop close to our house. You would have though I asked for her right arm when I suggested she start using the bus to get around. I thought back to when I was 20 and working. No car and I took the bus! I lived on my own too, on a very meager salary. I realized that I'm not doing her any favors by continuing to allow her to live as our "child" in our home. She's been dragging her feet about going back to school (she's scared), and getting her broken computer fixed (which is her excuse). She was going to CC and did three terms, but nothing college level because she screwed up so badly in HS. She stopped when she decided to attend elsewhere. So, there's on online school that's good for what she wants and I'm very familiar with it. But, she's just dragging and dragging.... She can drag..(for now), but she's not driving my car while she does it. After much screaming and crying (while I'm making turkey and the fixings), she collapses in bed and falls asleep. Of course, not before declaring that she doesn't want to spend her Thanksgiving with ME. "Fine, suit yourself", was my calm reply. She did come out though when it was time to eat and the days afterward she has had time to reflect. We've talked, but she doesn't like listening to what I have to say. She just wants to talk. So, I guess I'll see what happens. Sorry, don't mean to ramble on about me. I'm glad you had a peaceful Thanksgiving with husband. I love the story about the Xbox! I've seen all the specials (Amazon had one today for it, too), but just not quite ready to buy one. I understand a new system is coming out next year. Hence, the sales. It amazing the contrast between a difficult child holiday and a difficult child-less holiday, ain't it? I know if Son had been here with all of Daughter's drama, oh it would have been so much worse. [/QUOTE]
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