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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 633576" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>I hope you didn't mean buy as in literally hand over money! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite9" alt=":eek:" title="Eek! :eek:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":eek:" /></p><p> </p><p>No, I don't buy it, literally or figuratively. I know it's horrible stuff. The first time I found out when he was 17 I did my research. I'm MUCH rather pot was legal than that stuff by "legal". Not that I'm a fan of any mood-altering substance, but at least I know what's in pot...it's pot.</p><p> </p><p>I just really wish he'd quit "explaining" himself. He goes on and on when he's in these moods. It started with someone who wasn't even at the job fair thing telling him "You should have been interviewed there! You should have been drug tested then. Something wasn't right. You should call them." Which frustrated him because he said he filled out the application, gave it to the HR person, was asked a couple questions about his lack of prior employment "What have you been doing for the last year?" which lead to him stumbling and stuttering over how he went to college but that didn't really work out. Which lead to them asking why that wasn't on the application, leading to more stumbling and stuttering over how he didn't actually get any college credits....you get the idea. They told him they'd call him and sent him on his way.</p><p> </p><p>So he's of the opinion that he blew it. Literally every person who's walked into that factory for the last MONTH has been hired on the spot, all they had to do was pass the drug test, and he wasn't. So he's all bummed and frustrated. And so he has to talk.</p><p> </p><p>I don't want to hear it! He ended up going on and on over fast food and how he doesn't want to work fast food and how he hates it and it sucks and he'll get sucky hours with people he hates. With that attitude he WILL hate it! I told him that. I told him, if he takes the position it will suck - then it will suck!</p><p> </p><p>It's the usual, "I'm trying so hard." When he's just not. He asked if he was looking hard enough to suit me. I told him, "I don't know! I have absolutely no way of knowing what you are and aren't doing. I'm not home and you are answering Craig's List ads instead of going to company websites. You've lied SO much I have no reason to believe you even went to the job fair today? So NO. I'm not happy with how much you are doing!" </p><p> </p><p>It's the usual, "I just want to explain my feelings and I can find the words." This time I told him, "You know what, maybe your 'feelings' just don't matter. It doesn't matter what you want or how unhappy it makes you. Sometimes you just have to get over your 'feelings' and do what has to be done."</p><p> </p><p>I truly hate talking to him when he's in these moods. My son can actually have fairly interesting conversations about stuff I actually have an interest in from time to time. We had an hour long conversation, him, his father and me, about some Biblical Apocrypha the other day that he was reading - doubly odd since he's an atheist - but it was such a pleasant and interesting conversation. He's been in a decent mood. The job being the only sticking point right now.</p><p> </p><p>At the end of our discussion last night he, once again, tried to "explain" why he keeps talking and talking after we're already getting ticked off at him. He wants to "explain" and end the conversation on a better note. I told him, "When you are upset do you want us to keep pestering and pestering you? Sometimes, it's just better to shut the Hell up!" lol - Then his dad came home and the conversation stopped. I'm always the one he dumps this stuff on. smh</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 633576, member: 17309"] I hope you didn't mean buy as in literally hand over money! :eek: No, I don't buy it, literally or figuratively. I know it's horrible stuff. The first time I found out when he was 17 I did my research. I'm MUCH rather pot was legal than that stuff by "legal". Not that I'm a fan of any mood-altering substance, but at least I know what's in pot...it's pot. I just really wish he'd quit "explaining" himself. He goes on and on when he's in these moods. It started with someone who wasn't even at the job fair thing telling him "You should have been interviewed there! You should have been drug tested then. Something wasn't right. You should call them." Which frustrated him because he said he filled out the application, gave it to the HR person, was asked a couple questions about his lack of prior employment "What have you been doing for the last year?" which lead to him stumbling and stuttering over how he went to college but that didn't really work out. Which lead to them asking why that wasn't on the application, leading to more stumbling and stuttering over how he didn't actually get any college credits....you get the idea. They told him they'd call him and sent him on his way. So he's of the opinion that he blew it. Literally every person who's walked into that factory for the last MONTH has been hired on the spot, all they had to do was pass the drug test, and he wasn't. So he's all bummed and frustrated. And so he has to talk. I don't want to hear it! He ended up going on and on over fast food and how he doesn't want to work fast food and how he hates it and it sucks and he'll get sucky hours with people he hates. With that attitude he WILL hate it! I told him that. I told him, if he takes the position it will suck - then it will suck! It's the usual, "I'm trying so hard." When he's just not. He asked if he was looking hard enough to suit me. I told him, "I don't know! I have absolutely no way of knowing what you are and aren't doing. I'm not home and you are answering Craig's List ads instead of going to company websites. You've lied SO much I have no reason to believe you even went to the job fair today? So NO. I'm not happy with how much you are doing!" It's the usual, "I just want to explain my feelings and I can find the words." This time I told him, "You know what, maybe your 'feelings' just don't matter. It doesn't matter what you want or how unhappy it makes you. Sometimes you just have to get over your 'feelings' and do what has to be done." I truly hate talking to him when he's in these moods. My son can actually have fairly interesting conversations about stuff I actually have an interest in from time to time. We had an hour long conversation, him, his father and me, about some Biblical Apocrypha the other day that he was reading - doubly odd since he's an atheist - but it was such a pleasant and interesting conversation. He's been in a decent mood. The job being the only sticking point right now. At the end of our discussion last night he, once again, tried to "explain" why he keeps talking and talking after we're already getting ticked off at him. He wants to "explain" and end the conversation on a better note. I told him, "When you are upset do you want us to keep pestering and pestering you? Sometimes, it's just better to shut the Hell up!" lol - Then his dad came home and the conversation stopped. I'm always the one he dumps this stuff on. smh [/QUOTE]
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