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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 270799" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>I know some of these feelings. Since I've no biological children, but always wanted them, it feels like I was robbed of the right. First by my X, who couldn't be bothered, and now by fate, as husband is fixed.</p><p> </p><p>I always make sure to do something, no matter how small, for my mother in law and Mom. And I always send a card to my Grandma... This year no one had to remind me! She's in her late 80s so it means a lot to her.</p><p> </p><p>For the last three years, difficult child 2 has brought home things he made at school. Up till last year, he only made one item - and brought it to me, not BM. Talk about humbling. Last year, since the Occupational Therapist (OT) lady at the school knew the situation, he made two things, one for each mom (I like this lady, too bad she didn't move up grade levels with him). When he went to BM's last year though the gift for her vanished. Sneaking suspicion, since this was during some of difficult child 1's worst behavior, she did something with it. The reason I think so is that she told him that <strong><em>I</em></strong> had it. Uh huh. I don't like the woman, but she <em>did</em> give birth to them. That's worth something at least.</p><p> </p><p>Two years ago, husband and difficult child 1 went out & bought me a rosebush I had admired. I didn't tell them it was a <em>gardenia </em>(I am allergic to them...)! My Mom, however, let him in on it - nicely. Poor thing died, though - I have a black thumb.</p><p> </p><p>Last year, father in law and husband got together to get me a basket of plants. 4 of the 5 are still alive! So it's only brown, not black.</p><p> </p><p>I do get remembered. My parents remember, too. However it hurts. I always wanted one of my own, and won't ever have any. I love the difficult children, and I know they think of me as an extra parent, but there will always be that something missing.</p><p> </p><p>Of course, it's my opinion that anyone who has ever taken care of another person, even if it wasn't their child, should be wished Happy Mothers' Day and Happy Fathers' Day.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 270799, member: 6705"] I know some of these feelings. Since I've no biological children, but always wanted them, it feels like I was robbed of the right. First by my X, who couldn't be bothered, and now by fate, as husband is fixed. I always make sure to do something, no matter how small, for my mother in law and Mom. And I always send a card to my Grandma... This year no one had to remind me! She's in her late 80s so it means a lot to her. For the last three years, difficult child 2 has brought home things he made at school. Up till last year, he only made one item - and brought it to me, not BM. Talk about humbling. Last year, since the Occupational Therapist (OT) lady at the school knew the situation, he made two things, one for each mom (I like this lady, too bad she didn't move up grade levels with him). When he went to BM's last year though the gift for her vanished. Sneaking suspicion, since this was during some of difficult child 1's worst behavior, she did something with it. The reason I think so is that she told him that [B][I]I[/I][/B] had it. Uh huh. I don't like the woman, but she [I]did[/I] give birth to them. That's worth something at least. Two years ago, husband and difficult child 1 went out & bought me a rosebush I had admired. I didn't tell them it was a [I]gardenia [/I](I am allergic to them...)! My Mom, however, let him in on it - nicely. Poor thing died, though - I have a black thumb. Last year, father in law and husband got together to get me a basket of plants. 4 of the 5 are still alive! So it's only brown, not black. I do get remembered. My parents remember, too. However it hurts. I always wanted one of my own, and won't ever have any. I love the difficult children, and I know they think of me as an extra parent, but there will always be that something missing. Of course, it's my opinion that anyone who has ever taken care of another person, even if it wasn't their child, should be wished Happy Mothers' Day and Happy Fathers' Day. [/QUOTE]
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