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the ball is in his court??
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<blockquote data-quote="Littleboylost" data-source="post: 723132" data-attributes="member: 21895"><p>This is a beautiful observation. Detaching with live does not mean having no relationship. It is a relationship on our own terms in a way the sets healthy boundaries. This is a relationship in your terms and to see progress is truly wonderful. All any of us may have is progress and not perfection. Progress in the bond of the relationship without sobriety. It may not be what we want but we take what we can get. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Oh to find that voice and recognize what we need to do to decompress ourselves is so very insightful.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>The difficult conversations are the most challenging. They are indeed not pretty and O stand strong and not get lost in the FOG is a tremendous accomplishment for any of us. I am learning too Copa to step away from the FOG, to listen with compassion and do what my heart can endure with healthy boundaries in place. We are all different and our circumstances are different.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>To let it be, not to own it, not taking fault or blame; these are exceptions psychological boundaries. Being present and not codependent is something we all work at and strive for.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>We all do what our hearts can endure, no more no less. What you do is what you can.</p><p></p><p>Sam </p><p>I see no reason for an apology. We are all here in love and support if each other. We take what we need and leave the rest. </p><p></p><p>I for one now know I have a new question to add to my tool box. Before I get sucked into the swirley Whirly panic and doom ....is it just Tuesday for my son? </p><p></p><p>Sam How is your mom? I lost both my parents in less than 14 months and have no strong relationship with any of my siblings ( all be it there are 8, a lot of disfunction and unlearning for me).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Littleboylost, post: 723132, member: 21895"] This is a beautiful observation. Detaching with live does not mean having no relationship. It is a relationship on our own terms in a way the sets healthy boundaries. This is a relationship in your terms and to see progress is truly wonderful. All any of us may have is progress and not perfection. Progress in the bond of the relationship without sobriety. It may not be what we want but we take what we can get. Oh to find that voice and recognize what we need to do to decompress ourselves is so very insightful. The difficult conversations are the most challenging. They are indeed not pretty and O stand strong and not get lost in the FOG is a tremendous accomplishment for any of us. I am learning too Copa to step away from the FOG, to listen with compassion and do what my heart can endure with healthy boundaries in place. We are all different and our circumstances are different. To let it be, not to own it, not taking fault or blame; these are exceptions psychological boundaries. Being present and not codependent is something we all work at and strive for. We all do what our hearts can endure, no more no less. What you do is what you can. Sam I see no reason for an apology. We are all here in love and support if each other. We take what we need and leave the rest. I for one now know I have a new question to add to my tool box. Before I get sucked into the swirley Whirly panic and doom ....is it just Tuesday for my son? Sam How is your mom? I lost both my parents in less than 14 months and have no strong relationship with any of my siblings ( all be it there are 8, a lot of disfunction and unlearning for me). [/QUOTE]
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