There is another method to t heir madness besides trying to hurt us and gaslight us, which they do.
If they believe that life is random, if there is nothing else, it is easier for them do the things they do. Now when you and I act, we are guided by our religious or spiritual beliefs, thus our morals and our behaviors matter in a larger sense to us. Our grown kids do awful things to people and want to believe they CAN. And they want us to share this belief.
They use God like everything else...only for their own advantage. Thus, people on death row suddenly become associated strongly with a religion because THEN they've been caught and feel it can help them.
I'm not at all saying that atheists have no moral compasses. I am saying our difficult children don't and thus it is easiest for them to believe there is no higher power of any type who may not like the way they live their life. And they don't want us to think that either.
Don't take it personally and don't allow him to your religious holiday celebrations unless you want to risk that he will spout off and destroy the holiness of the day for you. Also I would go easy on allowing yourself to be a forum for his lack of faith. If you can not bring yourself to hang up the phone, just put it down and pick it up after there is no longer any noise. And then you can say "Uh huh." and put it back down again. There is no reason to listen to abuse. None. Nada. NOT EVEN FROM OUR GROWN CHILDREN.
