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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 515242" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>((((((((((hugs))))))))))</p><p></p><p>Aren't you glad that you are not this therapist's mother? Imagine all that that sainted woman gets blamed for!!! Every hangnail that the therapist gets is surely blamed on her mother. I have no time or patience with people like her. Just none.</p><p></p><p>Sadly some states say you must let them live with you until 19 or even 21, BUT that doesn't mean you have to make them like it. You can't throw them out, but you CAN make the rules so unpleasant that they CHOOSE to move out. Once they leave you are not responsible for them and I on't thinkk you have to take them back. But you might watn to check with an atty to be sure. </p><p></p><p>Just make sure he knows the limits long before the day he turns 18. </p><p></p><p> I cannot see how so many tdocs can say that parents are the reason that kids act so gfgly. I just don't buy it. they act that way because they choose to.</p><p></p><p>(((((hugs))))) and kudos for having hung in there this many years!!!</p><p>Now you must concentrate on what you want to happen when difficult child s 18. Will you let him live in your home, or should he prepare to take his stuff and get out on his 18th birthday? He will be out of school by then, at least for this year. Are you willing to let him live in your home under certain rules? If so, get that contract ready NOW and let him know so that he has at least 90 days to find a new residence. Given the problems, I would probably want him out of the home ASAP. Some states say that if you let an adult stay even ONE night in your home then they have stablished residency. So you need to be sure what you can do and let him know NOW.</p><p></p><p>If you will elt him stay if he follows certain rules, spell them out and spell out what the consequence for not following them is. Drug/alcohol use. having stolen property, stealing from anyone, etc... LIST everything and be SURE that you will follow through or esle don't ptu it in the contract.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 515242, member: 1233"] ((((((((((hugs)))))))))) Aren't you glad that you are not this therapist's mother? Imagine all that that sainted woman gets blamed for!!! Every hangnail that the therapist gets is surely blamed on her mother. I have no time or patience with people like her. Just none. Sadly some states say you must let them live with you until 19 or even 21, BUT that doesn't mean you have to make them like it. You can't throw them out, but you CAN make the rules so unpleasant that they CHOOSE to move out. Once they leave you are not responsible for them and I on't thinkk you have to take them back. But you might watn to check with an atty to be sure. Just make sure he knows the limits long before the day he turns 18. I cannot see how so many tdocs can say that parents are the reason that kids act so gfgly. I just don't buy it. they act that way because they choose to. (((((hugs))))) and kudos for having hung in there this many years!!! Now you must concentrate on what you want to happen when difficult child s 18. Will you let him live in your home, or should he prepare to take his stuff and get out on his 18th birthday? He will be out of school by then, at least for this year. Are you willing to let him live in your home under certain rules? If so, get that contract ready NOW and let him know so that he has at least 90 days to find a new residence. Given the problems, I would probably want him out of the home ASAP. Some states say that if you let an adult stay even ONE night in your home then they have stablished residency. So you need to be sure what you can do and let him know NOW. If you will elt him stay if he follows certain rules, spell them out and spell out what the consequence for not following them is. Drug/alcohol use. having stolen property, stealing from anyone, etc... LIST everything and be SURE that you will follow through or esle don't ptu it in the contract. [/QUOTE]
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