I wrote a quick post yesterday just to say hi and check in since I haven't been around much lately. I explained that things with difficult child#1 are still the same. Boy are they ever! He's gotten caught stealing at least 3 times in his PCR. The way he does it is that he offers to fix someone's electronic gadget (IPOD, gameboy, PSP, etc). He tells them he'll return it to them when it's fixed. He then SELLS the object or keeps it for his own use and never returns it to the other person! He always denies it and still weeks and months later he refuses to admit he did it although he's been caught RED HANDED! I'm fed up with this behavior. He's almost 18 (we're on the 4 month countdown) and he's got to start taking some responsibility for his actions!!! Anyway, last week I wrote a letter to his one of the clinician's. In the letter I explained that although I love difficult child I'm tired of his behavior and if he's not going to try to change then I'm pretty much done wasting my time. I'll still be apart of his life and always love him but I'm not going to invest anymore time in family therapy, etc. It accomplishes NOTHING and I wind up wasting a day off from work and losing money because of it! I got a letter back last night from another clinician at the facility. She basically said that all of his issues are with me and that's why he behaves the way he does and I need to keep trying no matter what. Umm ok...I'm willing and have been willing to try with him but when is enough enough?? I know his issues are with me but he does NOTHING to try to work on them! Not one thing. So what am I supposed to do? Be a doormat and let him blame me for every little thing that goes wrong in his life? When he steals it's my fault. When he lies it's my fault. Guess what? I'm DONE with that!