OMG, this brouhaha about my dad's driving has turned into such a stressful mess. Cactus Queen supposedly made an appointment with the driving evaluation service but has moaned and groaned about it to everyone. Along with Pigless has destroyed her father. Letty and Randy and steadfastly on my side. Mark has been silent since Randy explained to him that an evaluation was a good thing. CQ refuses to allow anyone to know exactly when the appointment is. I told Letty that I might need to get DMV involved since she could not seem to tell anyone a date. Sally called me last night to basically beg me not to file a DMV report. To give them time to handle this. They've had three weeks in which to make one appointment the date of which CQ refused to disclose. Finally, Sally claims that she knows the actual date and it is sometime in February. CQ is afraid that I will follow my dad to the evaluation. Seriously? I don't get paid at work unless I am present. I don't have time to be following him around. I've already seen him drive badly. I only want him assessed by a professional. And to add to the stress, CQ now wants all of the sibs who are basically at odds over this issue (Mark sent out several scathing and nasty emails) to meet together at her house to talk. She wanted me to spearhead the meeting. I am not going to do that. If she wants us to meet, she can call the meeting. I personally believe it will be a disaster. Letty and Sally are not on speaking terms and Mark and I aren't either. CQ is not a trained therapist and according to Letty, has no understanding of sensitivity. I asked her what her agenda was and she said, "We just want everyone to get along." Randy believes her hidden agenda for the meeting is to rake me over the coals about "destroying" my father. P. S. to Cedar, we tried very hard to present the information to CQ and Dad in a kind manner. We wanted them to take responsibility for his dangerous driving. Neither one of them can even now admit that Dad did anything wrong. I was saddened to find my dad so callously disregard the safety of others on the road. Apparently, his deteriorated cognitive abilities interfere with his judgement. Thoughts? Advice?