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The Christmas Present dilemma
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<blockquote data-quote="Go slow mama" data-source="post: 703401"><p>She is only 17, a child still really. Yes she is already a mother, and making some poor choices...but treating her as less than by giving less only sends the message that she is undeserving and reinforces the alienation she likely suffers, but might not show or articulate well...because she is only 17.</p><p></p><p>If your heart tells you to gift her equally, follow that instinct.</p><p></p><p>I understand the need to be careful around not gifting money or other transferable items that could lead to supporting poor choices. But you are gifting from your heart and that is the message that matters. What she chooses to do with it is not really an outcome you can reasonably control.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Go slow mama, post: 703401"] She is only 17, a child still really. Yes she is already a mother, and making some poor choices...but treating her as less than by giving less only sends the message that she is undeserving and reinforces the alienation she likely suffers, but might not show or articulate well...because she is only 17. If your heart tells you to gift her equally, follow that instinct. I understand the need to be careful around not gifting money or other transferable items that could lead to supporting poor choices. But you are gifting from your heart and that is the message that matters. What she chooses to do with it is not really an outcome you can reasonably control. [/QUOTE]
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