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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 303695"><p>When our daughter was younger and even more so as a teen, she was often very negative. I did my best to show her that she was being negative. It seem to me that she had no/zero awareness and I had hoped that if she could at least be aware of it, it would start her on a different path. Our of desperation, I would say softly "negative" every time she was this way. However, it was a little 'off putting.' On the good side...there were some days were I said it often and that in and of itself was revealing. </p><p> </p><p>What Terry said...or a version of it...is what I ended up doing. There are times when difficult child is not invited to events and she'll inquire as to why.</p><p> </p><p>We try to be careful and gentle when descrbing "why," but we let her know that it is because of recent past behavior involving negative comments/behaviors/actions/attitudes on her part. </p><p> </p><p>Also, if she is negative with me on the phone...I might give her a warning. If she continues to be this way...I quickly get off the phone, even if I have to hang up.</p><p> </p><p>Bottom line: because Boundaries and Consequences.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 303695"] When our daughter was younger and even more so as a teen, she was often very negative. I did my best to show her that she was being negative. It seem to me that she had no/zero awareness and I had hoped that if she could at least be aware of it, it would start her on a different path. Our of desperation, I would say softly "negative" every time she was this way. However, it was a little 'off putting.' On the good side...there were some days were I said it often and that in and of itself was revealing. What Terry said...or a version of it...is what I ended up doing. There are times when difficult child is not invited to events and she'll inquire as to why. We try to be careful and gentle when descrbing "why," but we let her know that it is because of recent past behavior involving negative comments/behaviors/actions/attitudes on her part. Also, if she is negative with me on the phone...I might give her a warning. If she continues to be this way...I quickly get off the phone, even if I have to hang up. Bottom line: because Boundaries and Consequences. [/QUOTE]
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