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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 390904" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I'm a sexual abuse survivor. </p><p></p><p>My easy child was sexually abused by my nephew while staying with my Mom when she was 3yrs. We went through pure hades and back. easy child did well and didn't need therapy.......I'm guessing all the talking about it during the investigation.....and she had some awfully great people who did it who kept reassuring her it wasn't her fault and she would be safe.....did the trick. Like your boys she had no memory of it. </p><p></p><p>Something happened when she was older......about 14 or so I think maybe younger than that where I was stuck on the spot. I either told her........or I lost her trust. </p><p></p><p>I told her. And while it was not pleasant for her to hear.........she did fine with the information. It didn't trigger memories, it didn't trigger behavior. But it did show her that I could be honest with her, and I didn't view her any differently due to what had happened.</p><p></p><p>As a victim..........I'm guessing your son is angry because this was told to him by a stranger. (I know she's not really but he doesn't remember her so she is) Not by his mother. It doesn't mean he remembers any of it. But this is a huge thing to be told by someone you don't know and very personal.</p><p></p><p>I can't tell you what to do. But what I would do is sit down and tell him and explain it. I understand you don't want to go through what you did before.......but the therapist let the cat out of the bag and your simply can't put it back. If you don't talk with him, he's going to assume all sorts of things.......and most likely none of them are going to be good. And it's going to go downhill from there.</p><p></p><p>I would not only chew out that therapist in a huge way..........I'd go after her boss while I was at it. TOTALLY unprofessional behavior!!!</p><p></p><p>I am so very sorry she's done this. Odds are if he moved past it and didn't remember it then once you've explained.......and explained why it just wasn't something that got talked about.......he'll be fine and understand.</p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 390904, member: 84"] I'm a sexual abuse survivor. My easy child was sexually abused by my nephew while staying with my Mom when she was 3yrs. We went through pure hades and back. easy child did well and didn't need therapy.......I'm guessing all the talking about it during the investigation.....and she had some awfully great people who did it who kept reassuring her it wasn't her fault and she would be safe.....did the trick. Like your boys she had no memory of it. Something happened when she was older......about 14 or so I think maybe younger than that where I was stuck on the spot. I either told her........or I lost her trust. I told her. And while it was not pleasant for her to hear.........she did fine with the information. It didn't trigger memories, it didn't trigger behavior. But it did show her that I could be honest with her, and I didn't view her any differently due to what had happened. As a victim..........I'm guessing your son is angry because this was told to him by a stranger. (I know she's not really but he doesn't remember her so she is) Not by his mother. It doesn't mean he remembers any of it. But this is a huge thing to be told by someone you don't know and very personal. I can't tell you what to do. But what I would do is sit down and tell him and explain it. I understand you don't want to go through what you did before.......but the therapist let the cat out of the bag and your simply can't put it back. If you don't talk with him, he's going to assume all sorts of things.......and most likely none of them are going to be good. And it's going to go downhill from there. I would not only chew out that therapist in a huge way..........I'd go after her boss while I was at it. TOTALLY unprofessional behavior!!! I am so very sorry she's done this. Odds are if he moved past it and didn't remember it then once you've explained.......and explained why it just wasn't something that got talked about.......he'll be fine and understand. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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