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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 391011" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Whether or not your difficult child has conscious memories of the abuse today, eventually it does out. The therapist should not have told your difficult child unless you were in the room (protocol with a child). His memories may come or they may not.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">My children were both horribly abused; one has some memories, the other has a memory or a flashback of some sort & will dissociate. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">What you do now is find an established child trauma specialist (therapist) who can handle this in the most delicate manner possible. What you tell your child is that you did your best to protect him & the minute you found out about the incident(s) you removed the person who hurt him. He is safe. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Over the years I've learned that you cannot "force" memories ~ they will come out when a child is better equipped emotionally to handle those memories. In the meantime, you work on skills to cope with anxieties, fears; you teach self calming & how to tell someone if he is being hurt again. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Over the past years the biggest lesson we've been teaching kt & wm is to not become a victim again. To recognize & report. It's taken years of age appropriate therapy.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 391011, member: 393"] [SIZE=3][FONT=Comic Sans MS]Whether or not your difficult child has conscious memories of the abuse today, eventually it does out. The therapist should not have told your difficult child unless you were in the room (protocol with a child). His memories may come or they may not. My children were both horribly abused; one has some memories, the other has a memory or a flashback of some sort & will dissociate. What you do now is find an established child trauma specialist (therapist) who can handle this in the most delicate manner possible. What you tell your child is that you did your best to protect him & the minute you found out about the incident(s) you removed the person who hurt him. He is safe. Over the years I've learned that you cannot "force" memories ~ they will come out when a child is better equipped emotionally to handle those memories. In the meantime, you work on skills to cope with anxieties, fears; you teach self calming & how to tell someone if he is being hurt again. Over the past years the biggest lesson we've been teaching kt & wm is to not become a victim again. To recognize & report. It's taken years of age appropriate therapy. [/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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