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The counselor said WHAT????
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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 391214"><p>I always knew I would end up having to tell both of them. However, not at this age if there were no signs of remembering. The therapist called me and apologized BUT reminded me that even if he doesn't remember what happened, the body remembers. I reminded her that I am very aware of that, being a survivor myself. I just told her that with all the other emotional stuff going on with him right now, that this isn't the time. She asked what I thought was causing the behavior at school and I told her that even easy child is having a hard time with the increase volume and intensity of homework this year. easy child loved school and used to hate vacations/days off but this year, even he looks forward to the next break because he finally won't have homework to do. The amount and difficulty of the work this year is a HUGE increase over even last year. I told her that his anxiety kicks into high gear when they give difficult child long worksheets (which means all of them) and his response is to become angry and beligerant. She was happy to hear that difficult child's assignments are being modified/shortened and she said she will help him work on his anger/anxiety and give him a place to vent. We agreed to keep in frequent contact.</p><p> </p><p>difficult child has been much better the last couple days. His anger has disappeared but I do still need to tell him <em>something. </em>For now, I simply plan to tell him that the babysitter wasn't nice to him at all and that is why I never let her babysit for him again. I am hoping to keep the gruesome details from him just until I think he is mature enough and emotionally ready to handle it. I know I can't keep it from him forever, but I don't want it to make bad matters worse. He doesn't deserve that and <strong><em><u>I</u> </em></strong>will tell him everything when he is ready.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 391214"] I always knew I would end up having to tell both of them. However, not at this age if there were no signs of remembering. The therapist called me and apologized BUT reminded me that even if he doesn't remember what happened, the body remembers. I reminded her that I am very aware of that, being a survivor myself. I just told her that with all the other emotional stuff going on with him right now, that this isn't the time. She asked what I thought was causing the behavior at school and I told her that even easy child is having a hard time with the increase volume and intensity of homework this year. easy child loved school and used to hate vacations/days off but this year, even he looks forward to the next break because he finally won't have homework to do. The amount and difficulty of the work this year is a HUGE increase over even last year. I told her that his anxiety kicks into high gear when they give difficult child long worksheets (which means all of them) and his response is to become angry and beligerant. She was happy to hear that difficult child's assignments are being modified/shortened and she said she will help him work on his anger/anxiety and give him a place to vent. We agreed to keep in frequent contact. difficult child has been much better the last couple days. His anger has disappeared but I do still need to tell him [I]something. [/I]For now, I simply plan to tell him that the babysitter wasn't nice to him at all and that is why I never let her babysit for him again. I am hoping to keep the gruesome details from him just until I think he is mature enough and emotionally ready to handle it. I know I can't keep it from him forever, but I don't want it to make bad matters worse. He doesn't deserve that and [B][I][U]I[/U] [/I][/B]will tell him everything when he is ready. [/QUOTE]
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