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<blockquote data-quote="Janna" data-source="post: 238649" data-attributes="member: 2737"><p>I can tell you, from my own experiences, it sounds like you are backed into a corner, with nowhere to go.</p><p></p><p>#1, if your difficult child does go to foster care, you WILL pay out of your rear end. If you don't pay, you will be found in contempt. If you don't comply with the contempt order, you will be sentenced. If you cannot pay, at least something, you will go to jail. I just got out of a sentencing, because B was in Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) 8 months, and I had to pay (he was in the custody of probation). I owe them, now $1500, but HAD to pay $270 or go to jail. The judges don't care. The Domestic Relations people don't care. You're ordered, that's it, you don't pay, you're in contempt. I have 2 very high special needs children here and NO job, and they just did not care at all. </p><p></p><p>#2, the chances of you getting an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement for a Bipolar child, getting a therapist, staff and psychiatrist that ALL are understanding of childhood Bipolar and able to treat him, medicinally, appropriately - good luck. Our psychiatrist at the most previous Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) D attended (8 months he was there) spent TEN minutes with him ONCE per month. Yep, that's it. It's NOT what you think, they don't work as hard as you think, and Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) really, truly is a glorified playground. I've had 2 kids in four different ones. There's nothing great - AND - they will just send him out with more behavior modification interventions when he's done. And, there is no guarantee Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) is a cure. If the child does NOT want to change, Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) does nothing. And no medications "cure" anything.</p><p></p><p>#3, I'd just go with the recommendations. You may think they're BS. You may think the therapist is BS. Start writing down EVERYTHING. What you talk about. What the therapist is offering. What you're trying. What you're doing (behavior mod wise). What works, when it doesn't work, write it down. Stick with it - for a good while. Behavior mod bites the big one - but you and everyone else with you today was right, it's necessary. I'm huge on behavior mod. I have a really complex kid - and I'm gonna tell ya, I busted TAIL doing behavior mod with him, and in 2006, his ODD diagnosis was removed. Gone. Never come back. He can be Autistic and he can have a mood disorder, and he may be ADHD, and he may be an ultra rapid cycler, and he may have Borderline Intellectual Functioning (BIF) and NonVerbal Learning Disorder (NVLD) and the whole nine, but he can LISTEN. And, he does. And, it was the hardest work I ever did in my life. AND I believe in it.</p><p></p><p>I am very sorry you are having such a hard time with this. Like I said, you sound backed into a corner - wish I had more.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Janna, post: 238649, member: 2737"] I can tell you, from my own experiences, it sounds like you are backed into a corner, with nowhere to go. #1, if your difficult child does go to foster care, you WILL pay out of your rear end. If you don't pay, you will be found in contempt. If you don't comply with the contempt order, you will be sentenced. If you cannot pay, at least something, you will go to jail. I just got out of a sentencing, because B was in Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) 8 months, and I had to pay (he was in the custody of probation). I owe them, now $1500, but HAD to pay $270 or go to jail. The judges don't care. The Domestic Relations people don't care. You're ordered, that's it, you don't pay, you're in contempt. I have 2 very high special needs children here and NO job, and they just did not care at all. #2, the chances of you getting an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement for a Bipolar child, getting a therapist, staff and psychiatrist that ALL are understanding of childhood Bipolar and able to treat him, medicinally, appropriately - good luck. Our psychiatrist at the most previous Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) D attended (8 months he was there) spent TEN minutes with him ONCE per month. Yep, that's it. It's NOT what you think, they don't work as hard as you think, and Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) really, truly is a glorified playground. I've had 2 kids in four different ones. There's nothing great - AND - they will just send him out with more behavior modification interventions when he's done. And, there is no guarantee Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) is a cure. If the child does NOT want to change, Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) does nothing. And no medications "cure" anything. #3, I'd just go with the recommendations. You may think they're BS. You may think the therapist is BS. Start writing down EVERYTHING. What you talk about. What the therapist is offering. What you're trying. What you're doing (behavior mod wise). What works, when it doesn't work, write it down. Stick with it - for a good while. Behavior mod bites the big one - but you and everyone else with you today was right, it's necessary. I'm huge on behavior mod. I have a really complex kid - and I'm gonna tell ya, I busted TAIL doing behavior mod with him, and in 2006, his ODD diagnosis was removed. Gone. Never come back. He can be Autistic and he can have a mood disorder, and he may be ADHD, and he may be an ultra rapid cycler, and he may have Borderline Intellectual Functioning (BIF) and NonVerbal Learning Disorder (NVLD) and the whole nine, but he can LISTEN. And, he does. And, it was the hardest work I ever did in my life. AND I believe in it. I am very sorry you are having such a hard time with this. Like I said, you sound backed into a corner - wish I had more. [/QUOTE]
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