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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 620724" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I've had four kids. I'd also had prior experience with my sister's kids, we lived with her when I was a teenager and I was generally used as an unpaid babysitter. So I knew how to handle babies.</p><p></p><p>With easy child, she was premature and tiny, but didn't need the intensive care nursery. Just missed out on that one. But she didn't feed well, was jaundiced and sleepy. I did find I bonded fast with her, almost lost my own sense of self in submerging into my baby's existence. I had no way of knowing how she would turn out. I had hopes, that was all.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 1 - was born after a difficult pregnancy, also a little premature but able to breathe on his own. He went into humidicrib for jaundice treatment for two days. He was a snuggly baby from the beginning, when I could get my hands on him.</p><p></p><p>easy child 2/difficult child 2 - I remember sitting holding her, studying her. She had a tiny crease in the bottom lip which I found fascinating. She had no problems feeding but also had jaundice problems which we dealt with thanks to a canny pediatrician who told me to express my milk and boil it. Let it cool, then feed her the bottled boiled milk. it helped clear up her jaundice a lot faster than the previous two. This baby was my sensual baby, from the beginning. The advised bathing method back then was to strip the baby naked, soap the baby up on a towel (baby generally screaming because they don't like being naked and unwrapped) then a quick dunk in a tepid shallow bath to rinse off. For easy child 2/difficult child 2, I ran a very warm Badedas bath. A deep bath. It was in the hospital nursery and the pediatrician was writing up his notes. The baby screamed as usual when I undressed her, but instead of the naked soaping up on a towel, I dunked her straight into the bubble bath I'd made for her. She stopped screaming immediately, opened her eyes wide, and relaxed. The sudden cessation of sound had the pediatrician swinging round in his chair, fearful I'd submerged the baby. But she was fine, and even stayed relaxed and quiet when I dressed her afterwards. That's when I knew I had a sensual baby. And as it turned out, she has kept a strong sense of sensuality. Part of her Aspie tendencies is being cuddly, wanting soft textures, wanting skin contact and especially furry or silky textures. Now she is a mother herself, her baby is getting the benefit.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 3 - he knew what he wanted, from the first minutes. Has always known what he wanted. If he didn't get what he wanted, he screamed. But as generally what he wanted was right for him anyway, we got along fine. He was fascinated with the flicker of light through leaves on the trees, which I later realised was very similar to the flicker of light past flapping fingers. difficult child 3 was also fascinated with quiz shows on TV, especially the ones where there wasn't much movement. He would tune out and get restless when the ads came on. We also found, as he got mobile and could reach the TV controls, that he had a fascination for re-tuning the TV. He also liked watching the microwave oven display as it counted down the cooking time. He would not respond to his name and did not talk but he could mimic. He could recite his numbers and his alphabet and soon recognised them in written form. He was learning to read double-digit numbers at about 18 months. He could climb, anything he wanted he would get even if he had to find a way to climb to ceiling height to get it. he liked the coin-sorting money box and would play with it for hours. He was using a computer from very young. Played the piano from very young (not just bashing at it, but carefully pressing notes and choosing chords). We thought we had a child genius, but when his speech did not develop as expected, we began to realise we had a problem. </p><p></p><p>Now - easy child is a mother of two, a health professional and hard worker. Witty, talented, highly intelligent.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 1 - married but it's an interesting relationship. They have decided to not have kids. I suspect daughter in law is borderline Aspie. difficult child 1 is still working towards a career path but does hold down a job. he has some unusual hobbies that fit in with his obsessions - Star Wars, medieval warfare, exercise.</p><p></p><p>easy child 2/difficult child 2 - working towards a career in child care and/or teaching. It will be a long journey. Is loving being a mother, loving being able to breastfeed her baby, has a great instinctive feel for her baby's needs. She still has a way to go in learning how to get on with people, but has made a lot of progress.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 3 - from being an early reader, mathematical and musical savant, he now rarely reads and doesn't play piano any more. Behaviourally he is still challenging, but is learning social skills at a faster rate now. I had very high expectations of him when he was born but all along, we've had to modify our expectations. He is an unknown quantity still. Whether he ever marries, I don't know. He's never had a girlfriend and almost all his friends are online. </p><p></p><p>The future is an uncharted country.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 620724, member: 1991"] I've had four kids. I'd also had prior experience with my sister's kids, we lived with her when I was a teenager and I was generally used as an unpaid babysitter. So I knew how to handle babies. With easy child, she was premature and tiny, but didn't need the intensive care nursery. Just missed out on that one. But she didn't feed well, was jaundiced and sleepy. I did find I bonded fast with her, almost lost my own sense of self in submerging into my baby's existence. I had no way of knowing how she would turn out. I had hopes, that was all. difficult child 1 - was born after a difficult pregnancy, also a little premature but able to breathe on his own. He went into humidicrib for jaundice treatment for two days. He was a snuggly baby from the beginning, when I could get my hands on him. easy child 2/difficult child 2 - I remember sitting holding her, studying her. She had a tiny crease in the bottom lip which I found fascinating. She had no problems feeding but also had jaundice problems which we dealt with thanks to a canny pediatrician who told me to express my milk and boil it. Let it cool, then feed her the bottled boiled milk. it helped clear up her jaundice a lot faster than the previous two. This baby was my sensual baby, from the beginning. The advised bathing method back then was to strip the baby naked, soap the baby up on a towel (baby generally screaming because they don't like being naked and unwrapped) then a quick dunk in a tepid shallow bath to rinse off. For easy child 2/difficult child 2, I ran a very warm Badedas bath. A deep bath. It was in the hospital nursery and the pediatrician was writing up his notes. The baby screamed as usual when I undressed her, but instead of the naked soaping up on a towel, I dunked her straight into the bubble bath I'd made for her. She stopped screaming immediately, opened her eyes wide, and relaxed. The sudden cessation of sound had the pediatrician swinging round in his chair, fearful I'd submerged the baby. But she was fine, and even stayed relaxed and quiet when I dressed her afterwards. That's when I knew I had a sensual baby. And as it turned out, she has kept a strong sense of sensuality. Part of her Aspie tendencies is being cuddly, wanting soft textures, wanting skin contact and especially furry or silky textures. Now she is a mother herself, her baby is getting the benefit. difficult child 3 - he knew what he wanted, from the first minutes. Has always known what he wanted. If he didn't get what he wanted, he screamed. But as generally what he wanted was right for him anyway, we got along fine. He was fascinated with the flicker of light through leaves on the trees, which I later realised was very similar to the flicker of light past flapping fingers. difficult child 3 was also fascinated with quiz shows on TV, especially the ones where there wasn't much movement. He would tune out and get restless when the ads came on. We also found, as he got mobile and could reach the TV controls, that he had a fascination for re-tuning the TV. He also liked watching the microwave oven display as it counted down the cooking time. He would not respond to his name and did not talk but he could mimic. He could recite his numbers and his alphabet and soon recognised them in written form. He was learning to read double-digit numbers at about 18 months. He could climb, anything he wanted he would get even if he had to find a way to climb to ceiling height to get it. he liked the coin-sorting money box and would play with it for hours. He was using a computer from very young. Played the piano from very young (not just bashing at it, but carefully pressing notes and choosing chords). We thought we had a child genius, but when his speech did not develop as expected, we began to realise we had a problem. Now - easy child is a mother of two, a health professional and hard worker. Witty, talented, highly intelligent. difficult child 1 - married but it's an interesting relationship. They have decided to not have kids. I suspect daughter in law is borderline Aspie. difficult child 1 is still working towards a career path but does hold down a job. he has some unusual hobbies that fit in with his obsessions - Star Wars, medieval warfare, exercise. easy child 2/difficult child 2 - working towards a career in child care and/or teaching. It will be a long journey. Is loving being a mother, loving being able to breastfeed her baby, has a great instinctive feel for her baby's needs. She still has a way to go in learning how to get on with people, but has made a lot of progress. difficult child 3 - from being an early reader, mathematical and musical savant, he now rarely reads and doesn't play piano any more. Behaviourally he is still challenging, but is learning social skills at a faster rate now. I had very high expectations of him when he was born but all along, we've had to modify our expectations. He is an unknown quantity still. Whether he ever marries, I don't know. He's never had a girlfriend and almost all his friends are online. The future is an uncharted country. [/QUOTE]
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