Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
The Denial is Just Shocking
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 287257" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>WSM--</p><p> </p><p>My husband used to be in denial about our daughter. Sure, he would admit that things were a little "off" here and there....but he would often blame it on me. "<em>You just need to</em>....." he would tell me.</p><p> </p><p>Of course, at the time he was on the road most of the time. He would hear from me every night and I would cry into the telephone and tell him everything that had happened that day--and he was sure that i was being overly dramatic.</p><p> </p><p>It didn't help that so many tdocs said the same thing: "<em>O your daughter is sweet. You just need to</em>....."</p><p> </p><p>But now things have changed. I can tell you the exact moment that husband's eyes were opened to the reality of what I'd been telling him all these years. It was when he found a note in her bedroom that talked about killing her brother. That was it. Denial gone.</p><p> </p><p>As far as the tdocs are concerned--I know that part of my problem all these years is that my little girl has had the face of an angel....blond hair, big blue eyes, dimpled cheeks. And I would walk into every appointment harried and stressed out--and difficult child would turn her cherubic face to the therapist and say "<em>My Mom doesn't love me</em>...." and then, of course, it was so obvious that the cranky ol' mother was the problem.</p><p> </p><p>Now, however, difficult child has hit puberty....and puberty has hit back. She has developed terrible acne across her dimpled cheeks. Her blond hair has darkened and become very oily (and it doesn't help that she does not like to wash it)....PLUS she dyed a big swatch of her hair pitch black. And now she has taken to wearing black nail polish and dark, ripped-up clothing.</p><p> </p><p>So suddenly, she looks on the outside the way she has always acted--kind of nasty and rough.</p><p> </p><p>Sadly, though, difficult child doesn't know that she is making a different sort of impression on people these days and she has been getting very frustrated that people are no longer responding to her as though she is "such a sweet girl".</p><p> </p><p>Although part of me feels sorry for difficult child--a larger part of me feels relieved that it looks like we are on the road toward getting some kind of help. Her pedicatrician now believes there is a problem....therapist now believes there is a problem....Department of Juvenile Justice has records indicating there is a problem....AND we got a referral to try and get on a waiting list for a specialist in our area.</p><p> </p><p>I hope for your sake and the sake of your whole family that your husband will have an "awakening" of his own. And SOON!!!</p><p> </p><p>--DaisyF</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 287257, member: 6546"] WSM-- My husband used to be in denial about our daughter. Sure, he would admit that things were a little "off" here and there....but he would often blame it on me. "[I]You just need to[/I]....." he would tell me. Of course, at the time he was on the road most of the time. He would hear from me every night and I would cry into the telephone and tell him everything that had happened that day--and he was sure that i was being overly dramatic. It didn't help that so many tdocs said the same thing: "[I]O your daughter is sweet. You just need to[/I]....." But now things have changed. I can tell you the exact moment that husband's eyes were opened to the reality of what I'd been telling him all these years. It was when he found a note in her bedroom that talked about killing her brother. That was it. Denial gone. As far as the tdocs are concerned--I know that part of my problem all these years is that my little girl has had the face of an angel....blond hair, big blue eyes, dimpled cheeks. And I would walk into every appointment harried and stressed out--and difficult child would turn her cherubic face to the therapist and say "[I]My Mom doesn't love me[/I]...." and then, of course, it was so obvious that the cranky ol' mother was the problem. Now, however, difficult child has hit puberty....and puberty has hit back. She has developed terrible acne across her dimpled cheeks. Her blond hair has darkened and become very oily (and it doesn't help that she does not like to wash it)....PLUS she dyed a big swatch of her hair pitch black. And now she has taken to wearing black nail polish and dark, ripped-up clothing. So suddenly, she looks on the outside the way she has always acted--kind of nasty and rough. Sadly, though, difficult child doesn't know that she is making a different sort of impression on people these days and she has been getting very frustrated that people are no longer responding to her as though she is "such a sweet girl". Although part of me feels sorry for difficult child--a larger part of me feels relieved that it looks like we are on the road toward getting some kind of help. Her pedicatrician now believes there is a problem....therapist now believes there is a problem....Department of Juvenile Justice has records indicating there is a problem....AND we got a referral to try and get on a waiting list for a specialist in our area. I hope for your sake and the sake of your whole family that your husband will have an "awakening" of his own. And SOON!!! --DaisyF [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
The Denial is Just Shocking
Top