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The Explosive Child, ODD and difficult child's Christmas wish list
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<blockquote data-quote="Bunny" data-source="post: 488221"><p>I've heard that MANY times, but what I have tried to tell difficult child and the therapist is that I can understand why it looks that way. I ask easy child to do something and easy child says, "Yes, mama" and goes to do it. I ask the same time of difficult child and I get fifteen minute argument about why he should not have to do it. Even if the request is something as simple as "please put your shoes on."</p><p></p><p>Personally, I think that it's sad that the therapist thinks you should let your 15 year old decide whether or not she wants to have a relationship with you. So now you have to continue to raise, clothe, feed, and financially support a child who thinks that she wants nothing to do with you unless she's asking for something that she wants? That makes no sesne to me.</p><p></p><p>I think that alot of times difficult children continue to ask for things that they know they will not get for several reasons. I think that difficult children get "stuck" on something and can't let it go. They only know what they want and they will ask for it continuously. I think that she's trying to break you down. The old "If I ask for a ferret long enough she'll give it to me just to shut me up" angle. I also think that they do this as a form of a test. "If you really loved me you would get me the ferret." Both are frustrating and annoying. If you don't want to give her a ferret, don't. She says she wants ne relationship with you, yet she expects to get what is on her Christmas wish list? That does not fly with me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bunny, post: 488221"] I've heard that MANY times, but what I have tried to tell difficult child and the therapist is that I can understand why it looks that way. I ask easy child to do something and easy child says, "Yes, mama" and goes to do it. I ask the same time of difficult child and I get fifteen minute argument about why he should not have to do it. Even if the request is something as simple as "please put your shoes on." Personally, I think that it's sad that the therapist thinks you should let your 15 year old decide whether or not she wants to have a relationship with you. So now you have to continue to raise, clothe, feed, and financially support a child who thinks that she wants nothing to do with you unless she's asking for something that she wants? That makes no sesne to me. I think that alot of times difficult children continue to ask for things that they know they will not get for several reasons. I think that difficult children get "stuck" on something and can't let it go. They only know what they want and they will ask for it continuously. I think that she's trying to break you down. The old "If I ask for a ferret long enough she'll give it to me just to shut me up" angle. I also think that they do this as a form of a test. "If you really loved me you would get me the ferret." Both are frustrating and annoying. If you don't want to give her a ferret, don't. She says she wants ne relationship with you, yet she expects to get what is on her Christmas wish list? That does not fly with me. [/QUOTE]
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