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The final vestige of hope is gone
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 570075" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Your granddaughter is a true blessing in the middle of a very difficult situation. </p><p></p><p>I suppose one could say until a person is not breathing there is always hope but the question is if you can, should, whatever (I dont know the right words, sorry) be invested in that struggle. I have no idea how that would feel. I get clues about how it could feel...though not the same I realize so I would never presume to understand your struggle....when my feelings change even when I know of my son's neurological issues, when one is mistreated it is only human to detach in some way. I have fleeting thoughts of not wanting to care or hope, just put him somewhere and let the chips fall where they may. Those are normal thoughts I believe (when I talk to myself as if I was a friend going through that, that is what I come up with...maybe it is a justification but it works for me). But they are survival for us when we have such life altering behavior from our kids. No matter the cause. We have to come to a place where we can live healthy lives, whether from the level of my brief dissociation from life or if we have to face truly, permanently letting go, not being the ones to work so hard and having the hope. </p><p></p><p>Your thoughts sound painful but healthy to this inexperienced person. It must be very difficult.</p><p></p><p>I may not be making any sense, but your post touched me, as they usually do. I just want you to know I am listening and care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 570075, member: 12886"] Your granddaughter is a true blessing in the middle of a very difficult situation. I suppose one could say until a person is not breathing there is always hope but the question is if you can, should, whatever (I dont know the right words, sorry) be invested in that struggle. I have no idea how that would feel. I get clues about how it could feel...though not the same I realize so I would never presume to understand your struggle....when my feelings change even when I know of my son's neurological issues, when one is mistreated it is only human to detach in some way. I have fleeting thoughts of not wanting to care or hope, just put him somewhere and let the chips fall where they may. Those are normal thoughts I believe (when I talk to myself as if I was a friend going through that, that is what I come up with...maybe it is a justification but it works for me). But they are survival for us when we have such life altering behavior from our kids. No matter the cause. We have to come to a place where we can live healthy lives, whether from the level of my brief dissociation from life or if we have to face truly, permanently letting go, not being the ones to work so hard and having the hope. Your thoughts sound painful but healthy to this inexperienced person. It must be very difficult. I may not be making any sense, but your post touched me, as they usually do. I just want you to know I am listening and care. [/QUOTE]
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