Littleboylost
Long road but the path ahead holds hope.
Hi to all of you!
I am sorry I do not post as often as I did. Active recovery is a busy time for all of us. I will try to give you a run down from the last post which was half way through rehab.
E continues to do amazingly well, no one is perfect he did have a release where he took someones medication. The behaviour was very serious and treated as a full on relapse. He engaged his relapse plan and was not out for one leave and the following leave was shortened to 24 hours instead of 72. He took a trazadone from a kid who obviously cheeked his medication; the though of swallowing something that was in some other persons mouth is so gross to me. he said he did this because he was having anxiety over the girlfriend....yes she is still kicking around. He has recently tried to break up with her and she declares she is going to kill herself and he ends up back with her....this is a serious risk to his sobriety. She has got to go.
He has a post rehab plan in place that includes consumption of alcohol and somewhere down the road perhaps pot ....no bong involved....this plans makes me very fearful, a thought which I have shared with him. Alcohol was never his demon, but pot took him right down the rabbit hole. There is a lot of teaching regarding harm reduction...not so sure I am a fan.
He went to a sporting competition with the rehab group and received a Gold Medal for soccer and an award for being the most therapeutic and supportive person of the week.
he has received 3 credits towards his high school diploma and has 3 more left. He went back to an academic level and received 80s and 90s....smart kid...wish he knew this. His self esteem is fragile. My PTSD is all over the place.
He will be home for one more 72 hour and then home for good, where did 6 months go? I hope to keep him busy and that he finds new friends and soon dumps the girl....cop mom is quiet...good! He picked up all his belongings from girlfriend and the wreak of pot was almost unbearable. He asked us to give her a ride...we did...not that I wanted to....she wreaked of pot so bad it was almost nauseating. What kind mother lives like this with her children....doesn't she stink like pot when she goes to work?? I had to wash all his clothing and a blanket three times and my laundry room stunk to high heaven of pot.
The rehab is very pleased with his progress and the way he managed his relapse. He attended some national sports games in Quebec and returned with a spirit award and a gold medal inSoccer. He will have post care and therapy in place for as long as he needs this.
Plans:
He plans to get a part time job and go to school to obtain his electrician certificate and then go on to complete a P Eng in electrical engineering. he has obtained 3 credits towards his high school diploma all at the academic level and all in the 80s and 90s. he has three credits left to get.
We plan to let him stay with us as long as he is clean and focuses on his academics and positive future. That said my PTSD is off the chain, I try not to think too far ahead....try try ....try. So many of the ones who have left the program have relapsed and gone full bore back into drug use.
We got a little puppy, he is a Boston Terrier; we have never had a puppy before, we have always adopted our pets. His name is Dexter, he is a sweet little thing and very cuddly for a puppy. E was always very good with animals....before the drugging. He has no siblings so this gives him some warm companionship on the home front.
We moved that was an adventure, our movers we had booked went bankrupt and took off with our deposit. We were fortunate that we had bridged and had 5 days before our town house closed. We got new movers on short notice and the move went off without at hitch.
We love the new home and are enjoying the pool before the weather turns on us.
I quit my job the 70 plus hour weeks were just not sustainable. I have been offered a new job and I start in September. I will have almost 2 glorious weeks in between to get things done around the new house and to get back into a fitness routine.
I am speaking at a conference in Sept in Chicago and we are looking forward to this hubs is coming with me.
E still has numerous outstanding charges to face, I will keep you all posted on the outcome of court no date set as of yet.
I am not on as often as I wish, and I do follow all of your posts. You were all a light in the storm and an anchor of hope through the most difficult of times, I tear up even writing this as I truly do not know what I would have done without all of you.


Be well and know I think of you all so fondly.
I am sorry I do not post as often as I did. Active recovery is a busy time for all of us. I will try to give you a run down from the last post which was half way through rehab.
E continues to do amazingly well, no one is perfect he did have a release where he took someones medication. The behaviour was very serious and treated as a full on relapse. He engaged his relapse plan and was not out for one leave and the following leave was shortened to 24 hours instead of 72. He took a trazadone from a kid who obviously cheeked his medication; the though of swallowing something that was in some other persons mouth is so gross to me. he said he did this because he was having anxiety over the girlfriend....yes she is still kicking around. He has recently tried to break up with her and she declares she is going to kill herself and he ends up back with her....this is a serious risk to his sobriety. She has got to go.
He has a post rehab plan in place that includes consumption of alcohol and somewhere down the road perhaps pot ....no bong involved....this plans makes me very fearful, a thought which I have shared with him. Alcohol was never his demon, but pot took him right down the rabbit hole. There is a lot of teaching regarding harm reduction...not so sure I am a fan.
He went to a sporting competition with the rehab group and received a Gold Medal for soccer and an award for being the most therapeutic and supportive person of the week.
he has received 3 credits towards his high school diploma and has 3 more left. He went back to an academic level and received 80s and 90s....smart kid...wish he knew this. His self esteem is fragile. My PTSD is all over the place.
He will be home for one more 72 hour and then home for good, where did 6 months go? I hope to keep him busy and that he finds new friends and soon dumps the girl....cop mom is quiet...good! He picked up all his belongings from girlfriend and the wreak of pot was almost unbearable. He asked us to give her a ride...we did...not that I wanted to....she wreaked of pot so bad it was almost nauseating. What kind mother lives like this with her children....doesn't she stink like pot when she goes to work?? I had to wash all his clothing and a blanket three times and my laundry room stunk to high heaven of pot.
The rehab is very pleased with his progress and the way he managed his relapse. He attended some national sports games in Quebec and returned with a spirit award and a gold medal inSoccer. He will have post care and therapy in place for as long as he needs this.
Plans:
He plans to get a part time job and go to school to obtain his electrician certificate and then go on to complete a P Eng in electrical engineering. he has obtained 3 credits towards his high school diploma all at the academic level and all in the 80s and 90s. he has three credits left to get.
We plan to let him stay with us as long as he is clean and focuses on his academics and positive future. That said my PTSD is off the chain, I try not to think too far ahead....try try ....try. So many of the ones who have left the program have relapsed and gone full bore back into drug use.
We got a little puppy, he is a Boston Terrier; we have never had a puppy before, we have always adopted our pets. His name is Dexter, he is a sweet little thing and very cuddly for a puppy. E was always very good with animals....before the drugging. He has no siblings so this gives him some warm companionship on the home front.
We moved that was an adventure, our movers we had booked went bankrupt and took off with our deposit. We were fortunate that we had bridged and had 5 days before our town house closed. We got new movers on short notice and the move went off without at hitch.
We love the new home and are enjoying the pool before the weather turns on us.
I quit my job the 70 plus hour weeks were just not sustainable. I have been offered a new job and I start in September. I will have almost 2 glorious weeks in between to get things done around the new house and to get back into a fitness routine.
I am speaking at a conference in Sept in Chicago and we are looking forward to this hubs is coming with me.
E still has numerous outstanding charges to face, I will keep you all posted on the outcome of court no date set as of yet.
I am not on as often as I wish, and I do follow all of your posts. You were all a light in the storm and an anchor of hope through the most difficult of times, I tear up even writing this as I truly do not know what I would have done without all of you.


Be well and know I think of you all so fondly.