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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 744230" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>The judgeement will come from his son, not us. He is going to know. Dad will be gone now until his son is 13, a pivotal age, and phone calls wont be enough.</p><p></p><p>A good father is a father not a buddy. He goes to school, taLks to teachers, helps with his homework, helps teach him right from wrong, hugs him when he is hurting, takes care of him when he is sick and is there. He is in the stands to watch him play sports or the trumpet. He doesnt just play with him when he happens to not be incarcerated. Or have short conversations on the phone with him from jail.</p><p></p><p>The gandson will adore YOU. You have been both parents to him. He will adore you for that.</p><p></p><p>But as he gets older and aware, he isnt going to think his dad was there for him and he will be probably ashamed he was in jail. And angry too as he tells his friends his dad is in jail and yes teens talk about these things. And the friends react with judgement and shock.</p><p></p><p>They all adore us at eight. They are little more than babies.</p><p></p><p>As you know and every parent knows, they can get critical of even very good parents at 16. We can not shield the truth from our grands. You cant cover up for your son. Not in the big picture. He will know. If he os curious he can look his fathers record up onlime. My adopted daughter looked up her birthfather and found all plus his scary looking mugshot. She grew up and got a degree in Criminal Justice and has no interest in ever meeting him. She was about 15 and I had no idea she even knew how to look this up. I didnt know how to look this up!</p><p></p><p>Kudos to those who are filling the gap gor this sweet child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 744230, member: 1550"] The judgeement will come from his son, not us. He is going to know. Dad will be gone now until his son is 13, a pivotal age, and phone calls wont be enough. A good father is a father not a buddy. He goes to school, taLks to teachers, helps with his homework, helps teach him right from wrong, hugs him when he is hurting, takes care of him when he is sick and is there. He is in the stands to watch him play sports or the trumpet. He doesnt just play with him when he happens to not be incarcerated. Or have short conversations on the phone with him from jail. The gandson will adore YOU. You have been both parents to him. He will adore you for that. But as he gets older and aware, he isnt going to think his dad was there for him and he will be probably ashamed he was in jail. And angry too as he tells his friends his dad is in jail and yes teens talk about these things. And the friends react with judgement and shock. They all adore us at eight. They are little more than babies. As you know and every parent knows, they can get critical of even very good parents at 16. We can not shield the truth from our grands. You cant cover up for your son. Not in the big picture. He will know. If he os curious he can look his fathers record up onlime. My adopted daughter looked up her birthfather and found all plus his scary looking mugshot. She grew up and got a degree in Criminal Justice and has no interest in ever meeting him. She was about 15 and I had no idea she even knew how to look this up. I didnt know how to look this up! Kudos to those who are filling the gap gor this sweet child. [/QUOTE]
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