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<blockquote data-quote="mentalcase" data-source="post: 744579" data-attributes="member: 23458"><p>Toomanytears - my 17 year old son has court as well- I was actually hoping he would forget and not show up and he'd be arrested. I know in jail he is off drugs and I know where he is. Pretty sad huh? But here we are. It's not easy dealing with all this. Take good care of yourself and let things happen. You have done all you can. The ball is in your son's court now. You are stronger than you think. Look at all of you have gone through and you are still here! You will get through this too. We all do, some how or another.</p><p></p><p>I know it's frustrating trying to help from far away. Seems like lots of obstacles - I know your plan is to have your son spending xmas at home with grandson, making nice memories. Maybe that's not God's plan. Maybe son needs to feel pain of messing up and not being there for grandson. Maybe that will motivate him to change. Maybe more stuff needs to happen with crazy girlfriend for him to see she's not good for him. The thing is...we don't know the big picture.</p><p>My son isn't going to school, doing drugs, facing felony charges, going from one friend's house to another. All I see are bad things...but maybe this is what needs to happen for him to get the help he needs. At least that's what I tell myself to be able to go through it and not lose my mind. I have to let go. He's not mine to prop up where I want, how I want, like a puppet. He is his own person and has his own will (he's proven that in spades). I can only pray for him. I've learned that's pretty powerful (even though at first it seemed like nothing). Of course I don't want to watch him suffer- yet I can't control that.</p><p></p><p>I pray for all our kids and for us too. You are not alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mentalcase, post: 744579, member: 23458"] Toomanytears - my 17 year old son has court as well- I was actually hoping he would forget and not show up and he'd be arrested. I know in jail he is off drugs and I know where he is. Pretty sad huh? But here we are. It's not easy dealing with all this. Take good care of yourself and let things happen. You have done all you can. The ball is in your son's court now. You are stronger than you think. Look at all of you have gone through and you are still here! You will get through this too. We all do, some how or another. I know it's frustrating trying to help from far away. Seems like lots of obstacles - I know your plan is to have your son spending xmas at home with grandson, making nice memories. Maybe that's not God's plan. Maybe son needs to feel pain of messing up and not being there for grandson. Maybe that will motivate him to change. Maybe more stuff needs to happen with crazy girlfriend for him to see she's not good for him. The thing is...we don't know the big picture. My son isn't going to school, doing drugs, facing felony charges, going from one friend's house to another. All I see are bad things...but maybe this is what needs to happen for him to get the help he needs. At least that's what I tell myself to be able to go through it and not lose my mind. I have to let go. He's not mine to prop up where I want, how I want, like a puppet. He is his own person and has his own will (he's proven that in spades). I can only pray for him. I've learned that's pretty powerful (even though at first it seemed like nothing). Of course I don't want to watch him suffer- yet I can't control that. I pray for all our kids and for us too. You are not alone. [/QUOTE]
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