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Hi family,
please forgive any typos, I am typing with one hand at the moment. Last night was a night straight from hades!! Aly came home from school in quite or horrendous mood, nothing went rite for her at school yesterday.
Adoptions worker was here to asscess the 3 foster kiddos for possbile move. They were playing hapily with lincoln logs. She got involved and just had to take over.. I had her go to her room and she started swearing at me and throwing things across her room, including a picture in a glass frame. Needless to say, broken glass was everwhere and I got a piece in my foot trying to clean it up. Adoptions worker decided to leave about then. I walked back into Aly's room to try to calm her down and she punched my so hard in my forearm, she broke it!
I immediately called police since I was home alone with 4 little ones and Aly. Sherrif spoke with her in a very serious and rough way. My sister ran over to watch little ones while her hubby took me to the ER. Yep, hairline fracture and have to go back tomorrow once swelling is down to get another Xray. I am in major pain, mommy heart along with the arm.
husband arrived home about the time that brother in law was to take me to ER and he ignored my arm and went straight into Aly's room to comfort her. I was livid as was sis and bro in law.
While on the way to ER I called crisis team and they then called husband. He refused to take her into crisis unit "she was calming down and was "sorry" she hurt me" Crisis team called me back to tell me of his refusal and was documenting it. The wanted her to come last night or this morning at the latest. I absolutely refused to have anything to do with it, saying that nothing will come from this and that she was calm and sorry now.
Bro in law took me to his house, sis already had taken all the littles to her house to keep them away from Aly and husband. I told husband that I would not be coming back until he and Aly were gone from our house as this was the last time I would allow Aly to be violent to me. He said he would make arrangements and be gone by morning. He brought over the foster kids clothing and stuff to my sis' house and left.
I will not live with violence in my home ever again. I am filing for a legal separation and he can live with Aly is he so chooses to and I will keep Jayme. I have now lost my 3 foster children, children's services moved them to my sister's home, so at least I can see them when I want.
I am beyond shocked at husband's behavior and am heartbroken that it has taken this to happen. I am feeling perfectly capable of raising Jayme on my own, I have tons of support. I may not get to do foster care again, at leaset for a long time, but that is ok. Most important is keeping Jayme and me safe.
I as sad to say I am not too heartbroken over what has happened with Aly. She has long been a source of major stress in my life and has broken my heart too many times to count. I am sure I will miss her, but I do feel relief at this time.
Crisis team will be sending the police out to check on whether husband has followed through with getting care for Aly. All I can say at this time is, good luck with that one!
Not sure what I am feeling except shock and alot of arm pain!
Vickie
please forgive any typos, I am typing with one hand at the moment. Last night was a night straight from hades!! Aly came home from school in quite or horrendous mood, nothing went rite for her at school yesterday.
Adoptions worker was here to asscess the 3 foster kiddos for possbile move. They were playing hapily with lincoln logs. She got involved and just had to take over.. I had her go to her room and she started swearing at me and throwing things across her room, including a picture in a glass frame. Needless to say, broken glass was everwhere and I got a piece in my foot trying to clean it up. Adoptions worker decided to leave about then. I walked back into Aly's room to try to calm her down and she punched my so hard in my forearm, she broke it!
I immediately called police since I was home alone with 4 little ones and Aly. Sherrif spoke with her in a very serious and rough way. My sister ran over to watch little ones while her hubby took me to the ER. Yep, hairline fracture and have to go back tomorrow once swelling is down to get another Xray. I am in major pain, mommy heart along with the arm.
husband arrived home about the time that brother in law was to take me to ER and he ignored my arm and went straight into Aly's room to comfort her. I was livid as was sis and bro in law.
While on the way to ER I called crisis team and they then called husband. He refused to take her into crisis unit "she was calming down and was "sorry" she hurt me" Crisis team called me back to tell me of his refusal and was documenting it. The wanted her to come last night or this morning at the latest. I absolutely refused to have anything to do with it, saying that nothing will come from this and that she was calm and sorry now.
Bro in law took me to his house, sis already had taken all the littles to her house to keep them away from Aly and husband. I told husband that I would not be coming back until he and Aly were gone from our house as this was the last time I would allow Aly to be violent to me. He said he would make arrangements and be gone by morning. He brought over the foster kids clothing and stuff to my sis' house and left.
I will not live with violence in my home ever again. I am filing for a legal separation and he can live with Aly is he so chooses to and I will keep Jayme. I have now lost my 3 foster children, children's services moved them to my sister's home, so at least I can see them when I want.
I am beyond shocked at husband's behavior and am heartbroken that it has taken this to happen. I am feeling perfectly capable of raising Jayme on my own, I have tons of support. I may not get to do foster care again, at leaset for a long time, but that is ok. Most important is keeping Jayme and me safe.
I as sad to say I am not too heartbroken over what has happened with Aly. She has long been a source of major stress in my life and has broken my heart too many times to count. I am sure I will miss her, but I do feel relief at this time.
Crisis team will be sending the police out to check on whether husband has followed through with getting care for Aly. All I can say at this time is, good luck with that one!
Not sure what I am feeling except shock and alot of arm pain!
Vickie