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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 452273" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>The CMO is trying to wear you down. Call your doctor and get some medications to help with the panic attacks and anxiety and make sure you and husband are seeing tdocs. </p><p></p><p>Under NO circumstances are you to let difficult child come home for even one hour. If he comes into your home, CMO will tell themselves nad the judge that it wasn't that bad and he is home now so he can just stay with you. The bed in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) will NEVER materialize if you let him coem home right now. No way is he safe to be around you all after this short a time period.</p><p></p><p>My son was 14 when he could no longer safely live with us. We had done a 4 month psychiatric hospital stay (Residential Treatment Center (RTC) really but not called that here) and it made a big change for about a year but then he was back to being violent. Only then he was beating ME not his sibs and I will NOT be a battered woman (or allow my kids to be battered or model that being okay to them). </p><p></p><p>I felt the most urgency about getting him out of our home NOT from the physical threat to me but because the threat to his life and future if he did manage to kill me. It ended with me having the police remove him from our home. It was UGLY and I HATED IT. But it saved him. My son couldn't stay in the shelter even 3 days with-o getting himself kicked out so he went to my parents. But they are not typical grands - my father had just retired from over three decades of teaching jr high problem kids. In all those years he never had even ONE class of the best/brightest students and he got his low achiever/discipline problem kids doing trig and calculus and algebra in 7th grade. He also is an Aspie like my son and it was like watching two toddlers go at each other sometimes. But it worked and now my son is almost 20 and going to college and getting all A's and is a great kid and big bro. We didn't have drugs problems, mostly because the aspie rule following, in my opinion. I started when he was first put on medications for adhd telling him that if he ever mixed them with drugs or alcohol that they would kill him. Somehow, when no other things I said stuck, that did. </p><p></p><p>I do think the system is trying to push you to take your son home so that they can then say that he isn't a problem and doesn't need placement. They do this because Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is expensive but you are too smart to fall for it. As for retaliation, he is 17. If he ran away from home they would NOT go look for him. So they are unlikely to retaliate. </p><p></p><p>Stay strong, stand your ground, tell them that the judge told them to place him and that he was not to ocme home and you will not violate the judge's orders.</p><p></p><p>I think reminding whomever calls that the judge ordered him placed from the psychiatric hospital and to not come home would be very wise. If they push very much, get a lawyer of your own to fight for you and your husband and yoru other kiddo.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 452273, member: 1233"] The CMO is trying to wear you down. Call your doctor and get some medications to help with the panic attacks and anxiety and make sure you and husband are seeing tdocs. Under NO circumstances are you to let difficult child come home for even one hour. If he comes into your home, CMO will tell themselves nad the judge that it wasn't that bad and he is home now so he can just stay with you. The bed in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) will NEVER materialize if you let him coem home right now. No way is he safe to be around you all after this short a time period. My son was 14 when he could no longer safely live with us. We had done a 4 month psychiatric hospital stay (Residential Treatment Center (RTC) really but not called that here) and it made a big change for about a year but then he was back to being violent. Only then he was beating ME not his sibs and I will NOT be a battered woman (or allow my kids to be battered or model that being okay to them). I felt the most urgency about getting him out of our home NOT from the physical threat to me but because the threat to his life and future if he did manage to kill me. It ended with me having the police remove him from our home. It was UGLY and I HATED IT. But it saved him. My son couldn't stay in the shelter even 3 days with-o getting himself kicked out so he went to my parents. But they are not typical grands - my father had just retired from over three decades of teaching jr high problem kids. In all those years he never had even ONE class of the best/brightest students and he got his low achiever/discipline problem kids doing trig and calculus and algebra in 7th grade. He also is an Aspie like my son and it was like watching two toddlers go at each other sometimes. But it worked and now my son is almost 20 and going to college and getting all A's and is a great kid and big bro. We didn't have drugs problems, mostly because the aspie rule following, in my opinion. I started when he was first put on medications for adhd telling him that if he ever mixed them with drugs or alcohol that they would kill him. Somehow, when no other things I said stuck, that did. I do think the system is trying to push you to take your son home so that they can then say that he isn't a problem and doesn't need placement. They do this because Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is expensive but you are too smart to fall for it. As for retaliation, he is 17. If he ran away from home they would NOT go look for him. So they are unlikely to retaliate. Stay strong, stand your ground, tell them that the judge told them to place him and that he was not to ocme home and you will not violate the judge's orders. I think reminding whomever calls that the judge ordered him placed from the psychiatric hospital and to not come home would be very wise. If they push very much, get a lawyer of your own to fight for you and your husband and yoru other kiddo. [/QUOTE]
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