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<blockquote data-quote="sad in the south" data-source="post: 599741" data-attributes="member: 16439"><p>Barbara, your response was wonderful!!!! I am in the same boat with Dash and am consumed with anger and loss for what I wanted for my daughter and for what I am missing out on with her being with this creep and now pregnant. But I am in therapy, trying to detach, and, although it goes against everything I feel and want to do and say, I am now only showing my daughter love and support. Almost immedicately, she has totally turned around and is now contacting me and asking for advice. I still don't know where she is living but at least she is talking to me..</p><p></p><p>Dash, I have no advice for you since I am going thru the same hell. all I can say is what Barbara said.... my therapist told me holding onto my anger is not going to change what happened and my daughter is well aware that I am angry and disapointed. So I can either accept the situation and be there for her or I will not be a part of her life and I may regret not being involved in her pregnancy or the birth of my grandchild. Believe me, it is very very difficult. Just typing the word grandchild makes me want to cry. I did not want to be a grandmother. I am barely finished being a mom and I am so tired. I just wanted some time to be me before my kids had kids. I have no clue right now how to handle the delivery if I have to be there with that jerk and his family. I just don't know if I can deal with it but I do know that if I don't reach out to my daughter, I will not have to worry about it because I will not be invited to the hospital for the birth and then it is just one more thing that I will miss out on. But it is what it is. And you and I have to figure out if we want to hold onto our anger and grief for what we lost or accept reality and be there for the little one.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="sad in the south, post: 599741, member: 16439"] Barbara, your response was wonderful!!!! I am in the same boat with Dash and am consumed with anger and loss for what I wanted for my daughter and for what I am missing out on with her being with this creep and now pregnant. But I am in therapy, trying to detach, and, although it goes against everything I feel and want to do and say, I am now only showing my daughter love and support. Almost immedicately, she has totally turned around and is now contacting me and asking for advice. I still don't know where she is living but at least she is talking to me.. Dash, I have no advice for you since I am going thru the same hell. all I can say is what Barbara said.... my therapist told me holding onto my anger is not going to change what happened and my daughter is well aware that I am angry and disapointed. So I can either accept the situation and be there for her or I will not be a part of her life and I may regret not being involved in her pregnancy or the birth of my grandchild. Believe me, it is very very difficult. Just typing the word grandchild makes me want to cry. I did not want to be a grandmother. I am barely finished being a mom and I am so tired. I just wanted some time to be me before my kids had kids. I have no clue right now how to handle the delivery if I have to be there with that jerk and his family. I just don't know if I can deal with it but I do know that if I don't reach out to my daughter, I will not have to worry about it because I will not be invited to the hospital for the birth and then it is just one more thing that I will miss out on. But it is what it is. And you and I have to figure out if we want to hold onto our anger and grief for what we lost or accept reality and be there for the little one. [/QUOTE]
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