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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 483189" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I think I remember reading that- and that probably contributed to him having a bad day....still, it was a bad day and if he's struggling at the group home over it, in my humble opinion, those are his natural consequences. I don't think it would serve you or his program or your relationship with him to engage or advise him or dangle a carrot- to me, that's all part of enabling. I think you have found a pretty healthy boundary with your son and I'm just trying to support that. I know it's really hard not to 'go there mentally' when we are trying to prepare ourselves for the worst because we see red flags, but I think you are doing right this time to just stand back a little and see how this plays out without any involvement from you, or stress on you. If he wants to discuss it with you, fine. I tend to think he is going thru the processes it takes to stay committted for the long haul. I could be wrong- I've been wrong before. But I'm keeping fingers crossed for you....and him. He knows what work he needs to do to make this work out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 483189, member: 3699"] I think I remember reading that- and that probably contributed to him having a bad day....still, it was a bad day and if he's struggling at the group home over it, in my humble opinion, those are his natural consequences. I don't think it would serve you or his program or your relationship with him to engage or advise him or dangle a carrot- to me, that's all part of enabling. I think you have found a pretty healthy boundary with your son and I'm just trying to support that. I know it's really hard not to 'go there mentally' when we are trying to prepare ourselves for the worst because we see red flags, but I think you are doing right this time to just stand back a little and see how this plays out without any involvement from you, or stress on you. If he wants to discuss it with you, fine. I tend to think he is going thru the processes it takes to stay committted for the long haul. I could be wrong- I've been wrong before. But I'm keeping fingers crossed for you....and him. He knows what work he needs to do to make this work out. [/QUOTE]
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