... sometimes it's him or us. For example, if difficult child has freedom of the house, we lose our freedom because we are anxious, watching, guarding our things, wondering what he's doing. When he loses his freedom, like when he's grounded to his room, we gain our freedom and it's so sweet. Since Friday he's been grounded to his room, comes home from school, goes upstairs, we put the alarm on. He's been excused from all chores since he does a bad job and uses it as an opportunity to steal from everyone else. He gets escorted out for meals, the bathroom and showers. And still, STILL, he managed to disappear a brand new pair of shoes he was given Monday morning.(we stripped his room, they aren't there). How did he disappear them? husband found a second pair of older shoes he'd been using as a reserve, older, but not junked up like his current shoes. Those are missing too. WTH? But for us? Four and a half days of freedom, it feels good. But is it fair to him? husband feels guilty, but is enjoying the respite too. But how long can he be grounded? It's no way for him to live. But letting him have the range of the house even under supervision makes us miserable. How do you resolve this?