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<blockquote data-quote="ma2sevn" data-source="post: 86397" data-attributes="member: 4056"><p>I am sure more expierienced people on here can help you way more than me, but I am wondering a couple things...like her pattern after a seizure. Is this her typical behavior following one? I wonder so much about seizure stuff because my 8 yr old has differing behaviors when he seizes. I wonder if when it passes, she feels a range of emotions and sensations and since she dosent know how to deal with this onslaught of feelings and having lost some sontrol over herself, she covers all the feelings up with her raging and demandeing...?? I really think kids, especially kids in care, or adopted, have so many control issues and "needs" and if they would or could, for that matter, verbalize them, their frustration level would decrease. Do you think she was embarrassed? That might have been another trigger. And speaking of triggers, I wondered if you thought any of it could have been her thinking of bio family due to this being the start of the holidays....the whole pumpkin patch setting causing her to think back and thus it triggering some loss thus causing emotional chaos. Maybe I am reading too much into this. But I see my son take off in different behavioral directions often and I see him having alot of eye activity during that time. Who knows, maybe as you say, she got off to a rough start and lost any and all self control. We can pick it death I guess.</p><p>My second thought was, no offense, but if you and hubby are home together withoug difficult child...maybe you could find something recreational to do together, or something to take your mind off her behavior and your disappointment of the kodack moment gone way wrong today. I am sure you know the first rule of foster and adoption...take care of yourself and your marriage. Which is probably the one we all break too often. Give your brain and heart a mini respite while she is gone and dont feel one bit guilty!!! Hang in there, and as for hubby, I think they are all exhausted but they dont reach out like us moms do and they bottle up their disappointments. Maybe he thinks once he starts opening up, the way he really feels will be too much for either of you to handle. I know my hubby and I are both expieriencing a feeling of loss with how some of our kids are doing. Like we hoped they would be better by now. </p><p>Who knows, maybe this is just run on babble and I need to go to bed. At any rate...I hope you took at least a couple good pictures today. And tommorrow is a new day. Angela</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ma2sevn, post: 86397, member: 4056"] I am sure more expierienced people on here can help you way more than me, but I am wondering a couple things...like her pattern after a seizure. Is this her typical behavior following one? I wonder so much about seizure stuff because my 8 yr old has differing behaviors when he seizes. I wonder if when it passes, she feels a range of emotions and sensations and since she dosent know how to deal with this onslaught of feelings and having lost some sontrol over herself, she covers all the feelings up with her raging and demandeing...?? I really think kids, especially kids in care, or adopted, have so many control issues and "needs" and if they would or could, for that matter, verbalize them, their frustration level would decrease. Do you think she was embarrassed? That might have been another trigger. And speaking of triggers, I wondered if you thought any of it could have been her thinking of bio family due to this being the start of the holidays....the whole pumpkin patch setting causing her to think back and thus it triggering some loss thus causing emotional chaos. Maybe I am reading too much into this. But I see my son take off in different behavioral directions often and I see him having alot of eye activity during that time. Who knows, maybe as you say, she got off to a rough start and lost any and all self control. We can pick it death I guess. My second thought was, no offense, but if you and hubby are home together withoug difficult child...maybe you could find something recreational to do together, or something to take your mind off her behavior and your disappointment of the kodack moment gone way wrong today. I am sure you know the first rule of foster and adoption...take care of yourself and your marriage. Which is probably the one we all break too often. Give your brain and heart a mini respite while she is gone and dont feel one bit guilty!!! Hang in there, and as for hubby, I think they are all exhausted but they dont reach out like us moms do and they bottle up their disappointments. Maybe he thinks once he starts opening up, the way he really feels will be too much for either of you to handle. I know my hubby and I are both expieriencing a feeling of loss with how some of our kids are doing. Like we hoped they would be better by now. Who knows, maybe this is just run on babble and I need to go to bed. At any rate...I hope you took at least a couple good pictures today. And tommorrow is a new day. Angela [/QUOTE]
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