The tools we give them ...

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by CrazyinVA, Aug 27, 2008.

  1. CrazyinVA

    CrazyinVA Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I wanted to share this tidbit I got from my psychiatrist, who I saw this morning. She has also been Youngest's and Oldest's psychiatrist, at various times, and knows my whole dramatic life story.

    I was talking about Oldest's latest spiral. I told her the latest episodes had really worn me out, and discouraged me.

    She said, "You've got to accept that you have done everything possible to help Oldest. You raised her, took care of her physical health issues and her mental health issues as best you could, and you taught her and gave her the tools to take care of herself. The problem is, Oldest says 'I don't want THOSE tools! Give me the tools I WANT!' "

    That cracked me up. She is SO right! difficult children to a "t" !!!! I just had to share it here.

    I love that woman. Even in a 15 minute medication-check session, she can make me feel better.
  2. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    You know what...your psychiatrist is so dead on right its not even funny!
  3. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    That is a very good take on the situation. Sadly, until they accept the tools we ahve given them they will continue to be unhappy. But we don't have to be!

    Glad you have a great psychiatrist.
  4. Star*

    Star* call 911

    Is this like I wanted a sweater for christmas and got a groaner?

    ROFLMAO - Touche!:tongue:
  5. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Dead on. She couldn't have put it better. She sounds like a wonderful psychiatrist.
  6. HereWeGoAgain

    HereWeGoAgain Grandpa

    So true! What a great analogy.

    (I tried to think up some kind of crack about the sharpest tools in the shed, but I drew a blank, so you can now breathe a sigh of relief).
  7. Suz

    Suz (the future) MRS. GERE

    I'm sorry I'm late coming to this thread, but I absolutely love the psychiatrist's insight. WOW! I guess the trick to this is somehow making them think the tools we give them are also the tools they want. :)