Scent of Cedar *
Well-Known Member
I've been reading Martha Beck this morning. Who knew she was into martial arts, like me? The following links have to do with things that matter. Thanks to SWOT's thread about how it is that site activity is down (and FOO Chronicles activity non-freaking existent), I really thought about those who commented that the site was too personal, and about those who'd commented they'd felt excluded. I thought about whether any of that mattered to me.
I thought about Child of Mine's grandmother's comment: Worry is a fast getaway on a wooden horse.
So, I decided to stop riding that particular merry go round and come down to Earth and here I am, this morning.
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Please stop feeling excluded. You may have been able to provide insight or comfort, but even that is not required. None of us knows how to do this right. What we do know is that we are doing our best that we know, today. We are here to address whatever it is it turns out we wish we felt differently about regarding self concept. For me, there were reasons I chose to address shaming imagery from my past here on FOO Chronicles. I would do it again in a minute. I am better. I am no longer afraid to know what I know and that has changed everything about who I believe myself to be. For those who felt excluded from FOO Chronicles, please believe: There is no exclusion. If we were already perfect, and perfectly content with everything that happens to us ~ well, wherever I was going with that thinking. What I mean to say is please post if you feel any smallest inclination to do so.
I found FOO Chronicles explosively helpful. Through it, I have been able to ferret out things about my past that were shaming and therefore, weakening me.
My perspective has changed.
And that has changed everything.
So, I am going to post what I find valuable to me. I invite you to do the same. We will go on as long as we find value in what we do.
RB, I am forever grateful for this opportunity to heal and I took full advantage of it.
Thank you.
:O)
Regarding cliques: It would be natural for cliques to form. If you find something of value here, post anyway. Those healing the wounds you have chosen to address will appear.
Or, ask a question. Just make a post and ask a question.
Cedar
Here are some of the links that, shame based as I am, I found of value this morning. Again, if we refuse to acknowledge where we wish to change our thinking about ourselves, then nothing will change for us. If we decide to address old belief systems, the price of admission is having a look at what they are. If you have been, or if you are are being, abused, there is a way to get free of that mindset that was hurt into you and that is the only thing keeping you imprisoned in those old belief systems, now. That mindset telling you these people somehow see a truth you do not see is wrong thinking. All we need to do to heal is look, and to decide for ourselves: Who is the Liar, here. Then, we find out what is really probably true about the way we grew up or even, about the way we are living, now. And about what is wrong and maybe, even dead wrong, about the way we are living, and what we believe about ourselves. Or our children.
And again, that changes everything.
This link has to do with the Universal Question: "So?"
http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Martha-Becks-Cure-for-Self-Consciousness
The following quote is also Martha Beck. It has to do with attaining, and keeping, emotional stability.
Who knew Martha was so cool?
Here is the quote:
Either you really did provoke the attack, or you're operating under the misconception that you deserved it. Return immediately to emo-do code: Stop causing suffering for yourself by thinking you deserved victimization; correct any behaviors that might have triggered the mugging and, finally, forgive yourself for the whole misadventure.
Martha Beck
I thought about Child of Mine's grandmother's comment: Worry is a fast getaway on a wooden horse.
So, I decided to stop riding that particular merry go round and come down to Earth and here I am, this morning.
***
Please stop feeling excluded. You may have been able to provide insight or comfort, but even that is not required. None of us knows how to do this right. What we do know is that we are doing our best that we know, today. We are here to address whatever it is it turns out we wish we felt differently about regarding self concept. For me, there were reasons I chose to address shaming imagery from my past here on FOO Chronicles. I would do it again in a minute. I am better. I am no longer afraid to know what I know and that has changed everything about who I believe myself to be. For those who felt excluded from FOO Chronicles, please believe: There is no exclusion. If we were already perfect, and perfectly content with everything that happens to us ~ well, wherever I was going with that thinking. What I mean to say is please post if you feel any smallest inclination to do so.
I found FOO Chronicles explosively helpful. Through it, I have been able to ferret out things about my past that were shaming and therefore, weakening me.
My perspective has changed.
And that has changed everything.
So, I am going to post what I find valuable to me. I invite you to do the same. We will go on as long as we find value in what we do.
RB, I am forever grateful for this opportunity to heal and I took full advantage of it.
Thank you.
:O)
Regarding cliques: It would be natural for cliques to form. If you find something of value here, post anyway. Those healing the wounds you have chosen to address will appear.
Or, ask a question. Just make a post and ask a question.
Cedar
Here are some of the links that, shame based as I am, I found of value this morning. Again, if we refuse to acknowledge where we wish to change our thinking about ourselves, then nothing will change for us. If we decide to address old belief systems, the price of admission is having a look at what they are. If you have been, or if you are are being, abused, there is a way to get free of that mindset that was hurt into you and that is the only thing keeping you imprisoned in those old belief systems, now. That mindset telling you these people somehow see a truth you do not see is wrong thinking. All we need to do to heal is look, and to decide for ourselves: Who is the Liar, here. Then, we find out what is really probably true about the way we grew up or even, about the way we are living, now. And about what is wrong and maybe, even dead wrong, about the way we are living, and what we believe about ourselves. Or our children.
And again, that changes everything.
This link has to do with the Universal Question: "So?"
http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Martha-Becks-Cure-for-Self-Consciousness
The following quote is also Martha Beck. It has to do with attaining, and keeping, emotional stability.
Who knew Martha was so cool?
Here is the quote:
Either you really did provoke the attack, or you're operating under the misconception that you deserved it. Return immediately to emo-do code: Stop causing suffering for yourself by thinking you deserved victimization; correct any behaviors that might have triggered the mugging and, finally, forgive yourself for the whole misadventure.
Martha Beck