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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 203600"><p>I've never minded the clothing issue. Freedom of expression, whatever you want to call it. She's not being racy in her attire - she is still very modest - and nothing derogatory on her clothing like I see a lot of teens wear. The vampire fangs threw me for a loop, though. Oompf. </p><p></p><p>I just think back to the 5th grade. She had picked out all skirts for school clothing. She was always very girly. We went to orientation and she was wearing this cute turquoise and black skirt, turquoise top and black dress boots. She was so proud and excited. Then she got to school and all the girls were wearing jeans. We had to go shopping again and the skirts never got worn. </p><p></p><p>So, while she may be choosing to be quite different than the "norm", she's becoming comfortable enough to be who she is right now. For a kid with severe anxiety and very low self-esteem/confidence, that is huge. </p><p></p><p>She's been trying to find her identity for a while now. Insisting furiously that she's not girly. Then becoming extremely upset and hostile if you even mentioned the word "Goth". She's exploring. She's settled on this, for now at least. Maybe it will stick, maybe it won't. If she's happy with who she is, that's all I really care about.</p><p></p><p>Marg - She insisted on black eyeshadow. I found this eyeshadow kit that had shades in black, charcoal, gray, all the way to white. And I showed her how to apply it to achieve that smoky eye look, as opposed to raccoon eyes. It looks very pretty...not unlike what you see models wearing with their eye makeup. I'm still working on more of a red shade of lipstick - burgundy, etc - but she was set on black. I'll let her try it and then go from there. Trial and error.</p><p></p><p>She has always been interested in science and languages. She's been taking an interest in psychology and societies reactions to things. She reads a lot and writes down things that interest her. She's creative and has an interesting and somewhat unique read on things. She keeps me on my toes - I'm a logical thinker, so I have to work to keep up with how she sees things vs how I do.</p><p></p><p>In the past couple of months, I've gone from thinking that she is going to live with me until she is 30 to believing that she is going to succeed well in life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 203600"] I've never minded the clothing issue. Freedom of expression, whatever you want to call it. She's not being racy in her attire - she is still very modest - and nothing derogatory on her clothing like I see a lot of teens wear. The vampire fangs threw me for a loop, though. Oompf. I just think back to the 5th grade. She had picked out all skirts for school clothing. She was always very girly. We went to orientation and she was wearing this cute turquoise and black skirt, turquoise top and black dress boots. She was so proud and excited. Then she got to school and all the girls were wearing jeans. We had to go shopping again and the skirts never got worn. So, while she may be choosing to be quite different than the "norm", she's becoming comfortable enough to be who she is right now. For a kid with severe anxiety and very low self-esteem/confidence, that is huge. She's been trying to find her identity for a while now. Insisting furiously that she's not girly. Then becoming extremely upset and hostile if you even mentioned the word "Goth". She's exploring. She's settled on this, for now at least. Maybe it will stick, maybe it won't. If she's happy with who she is, that's all I really care about. Marg - She insisted on black eyeshadow. I found this eyeshadow kit that had shades in black, charcoal, gray, all the way to white. And I showed her how to apply it to achieve that smoky eye look, as opposed to raccoon eyes. It looks very pretty...not unlike what you see models wearing with their eye makeup. I'm still working on more of a red shade of lipstick - burgundy, etc - but she was set on black. I'll let her try it and then go from there. Trial and error. She has always been interested in science and languages. She's been taking an interest in psychology and societies reactions to things. She reads a lot and writes down things that interest her. She's creative and has an interesting and somewhat unique read on things. She keeps me on my toes - I'm a logical thinker, so I have to work to keep up with how she sees things vs how I do. In the past couple of months, I've gone from thinking that she is going to live with me until she is 30 to believing that she is going to succeed well in life. [/QUOTE]
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