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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 676791" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Yes.</p><p></p><p>I love this concept you have written so clearly for us, Copa. <em>The banality of evil.</em></p><p></p><p>Do the soldiers experiencing PTSD...I wonder whether that is the final thing that does them in. The banality of evil.</p><p></p><p>This concept is a tool Copa, we can hold in our hands, <em>no longer victims</em>.</p><p></p><p>We will have been victimized on so many levels, over so much time, by the <em>banality </em>of evil<em>.</em></p><p></p><p>Very true.</p><p></p><p>Huh. </p><p></p><p>That is the answer to: What was the win. That is why we could never find the why to justify what has happened to all of us. The <em>banality</em> of evil. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>You were very brave, and very determined. People bumping into each other. I would not have gone back either. It was wrong of the instructor to further traumatize you. "Bumping into", while it may be able to address that core issues exist (like we didn't already know that), will not heal them, I don't think. Individual challenge. To surmount the breakage and become something beautiful and strong and your own in some way you were not, before, because you faced down shame and ugly and weak to create some spare, strong thing that is breathtaking ~ that is to heal.</p><p></p><p>Not bumping into strangers.</p><p></p><p>Oh oh, you guys. Looks like I know everything again this morning.</p><p></p><p>I do find that concept offensive. Though the damage we sustained is held in our bodies, the curing of it requires...I don't know what. Nothing having anything to do with strangers turned "friends" because we all have been hurt. Trust issues are so huge with us. This class sounds like a recipe for betrayal ~ maybe, even for the worst betrayal ~ the betrayal of self.</p><p></p><p>A quick fix, maybe.</p><p></p><p>Ballet is clean. Tango is clean. Line dancing is clean. Tai Chi is clean. Karate is very clean. Kayaking is clean. Running or working or chopping onions is clean.</p><p></p><p>Anonymous bumping?</p><p></p><p>No.</p><p></p><p>We are saving our own lives here. The primary relationship is the one forming between us and ourselves.</p><p></p><p>That is why this is sacred ground.</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/starplucker.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":starplucker:" title="starplucker :starplucker:" data-shortname=":starplucker:" /></p><p></p><p>Maybe, this is the imagery to go with the poetry about the Prisoner.</p><p></p><p>See the stars?</p><p></p><p>That is us, coming real to ourselves. Or, that is us, witnessing for the little girls (or the little boys) that we were, when we were hurt.</p><p></p><p>How beautiful is that.</p><p></p><p>***</p><p></p><p>No anonymous bumping allowed.</p><p></p><p>Though the instructor may have been sincere.</p><p></p><p>You know how I am always saying I will find imagery of the ballerina on pointe for my next avatar? When I am ready, and when I find it, it will be the foot, or the feet, not the entire body I don't think.</p><p></p><p>The feet may be bare, and blistered and bandaged.</p><p></p><p>It will be about strength; about dancing, anyway.</p><p></p><p>About making that choice.</p><p></p><p>This is how I see you, Copa. I found it on a tango imagery site. This is how I see you, now. Fastening the thinnest of straps, everything perfect as you prepare to begin, savoring the beginning.</p><p></p><p><img src="https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/a7/9d/20/a79d20fb8c4aa92f6e351bed1fa80152.jpg" alt="" class="fr-fic fr-dii fr-draggable " style="" /> </p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 676791, member: 17461"] Yes. I love this concept you have written so clearly for us, Copa. [I]The banality of evil.[/I] Do the soldiers experiencing PTSD...I wonder whether that is the final thing that does them in. The banality of evil. This concept is a tool Copa, we can hold in our hands, [I]no longer victims[/I]. We will have been victimized on so many levels, over so much time, by the [I]banality [/I]of evil[I].[/I] Very true. Huh. That is the answer to: What was the win. That is why we could never find the why to justify what has happened to all of us. The [I]banality[/I] of evil. You were very brave, and very determined. People bumping into each other. I would not have gone back either. It was wrong of the instructor to further traumatize you. "Bumping into", while it may be able to address that core issues exist (like we didn't already know that), will not heal them, I don't think. Individual challenge. To surmount the breakage and become something beautiful and strong and your own in some way you were not, before, because you faced down shame and ugly and weak to create some spare, strong thing that is breathtaking ~ that is to heal. Not bumping into strangers. Oh oh, you guys. Looks like I know everything again this morning. I do find that concept offensive. Though the damage we sustained is held in our bodies, the curing of it requires...I don't know what. Nothing having anything to do with strangers turned "friends" because we all have been hurt. Trust issues are so huge with us. This class sounds like a recipe for betrayal ~ maybe, even for the worst betrayal ~ the betrayal of self. A quick fix, maybe. Ballet is clean. Tango is clean. Line dancing is clean. Tai Chi is clean. Karate is very clean. Kayaking is clean. Running or working or chopping onions is clean. Anonymous bumping? No. We are saving our own lives here. The primary relationship is the one forming between us and ourselves. That is why this is sacred ground. :starplucker: Maybe, this is the imagery to go with the poetry about the Prisoner. See the stars? That is us, coming real to ourselves. Or, that is us, witnessing for the little girls (or the little boys) that we were, when we were hurt. How beautiful is that. *** No anonymous bumping allowed. Though the instructor may have been sincere. You know how I am always saying I will find imagery of the ballerina on pointe for my next avatar? When I am ready, and when I find it, it will be the foot, or the feet, not the entire body I don't think. The feet may be bare, and blistered and bandaged. It will be about strength; about dancing, anyway. About making that choice. This is how I see you, Copa. I found it on a tango imagery site. This is how I see you, now. Fastening the thinnest of straps, everything perfect as you prepare to begin, savoring the beginning. [IMG]https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/a7/9d/20/a79d20fb8c4aa92f6e351bed1fa80152.jpg[/IMG] Cedar [/QUOTE]
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