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The win and the loss
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 677021" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Anger.</p><p> </p><p>My anger does nothing in bringing the perpetrators of evil to justice. My anger at what happened to me, harms ME. It creates a mirror-image of the wrong that was done. And for me, it ends up being as bad or worse.</p><p> </p><p>I HAD to let go of the anger. If there had been anything illegal done, I probably would have spoken up and let justice take it's course. That isn't anger, it's justice. But <em>anger</em>... is just an emotion, a feeling. We say "so-and-so makes me SO angry", but in reality, nobody has the power to make us angry <em>unless we choose to give them that power. </em>I choose to not give FOO the power to produce anger in me. That doesn't change how I need to live, in the here and now, in protecting myself and my own - the need for space, etc. But it DOES change how I live in the here and now, because energy is a limited resource. I can either spend it on anger, or I can spend it on getting healing for myself, or I can invest it in healthy relationships, or any number of other ways to spend that energy. Do I really want to waste MY precious energy being angry at FOO, and perpetuating their impoverishment of my self? When I start getting angry (again), that is the key question that slows me down.</p><p> </p><p>I will spend MY strength and health and energy <em>the way *I* want to spend them</em>. Just as FOO cannot directly control those decisions, I will not allow them to indirectly control those decisions either. Therefore... I let go of anger.</p><p> </p><p>Doesn't mean I trust them, or allow them into my turf very much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 677021, member: 11791"] Anger. My anger does nothing in bringing the perpetrators of evil to justice. My anger at what happened to me, harms ME. It creates a mirror-image of the wrong that was done. And for me, it ends up being as bad or worse. I HAD to let go of the anger. If there had been anything illegal done, I probably would have spoken up and let justice take it's course. That isn't anger, it's justice. But [I]anger[/I]... is just an emotion, a feeling. We say "so-and-so makes me SO angry", but in reality, nobody has the power to make us angry [I]unless we choose to give them that power. [/I]I choose to not give FOO the power to produce anger in me. That doesn't change how I need to live, in the here and now, in protecting myself and my own - the need for space, etc. But it DOES change how I live in the here and now, because energy is a limited resource. I can either spend it on anger, or I can spend it on getting healing for myself, or I can invest it in healthy relationships, or any number of other ways to spend that energy. Do I really want to waste MY precious energy being angry at FOO, and perpetuating their impoverishment of my self? When I start getting angry (again), that is the key question that slows me down. I will spend MY strength and health and energy [I]the way *I* want to spend them[/I]. Just as FOO cannot directly control those decisions, I will not allow them to indirectly control those decisions either. Therefore... I let go of anger. Doesn't mean I trust them, or allow them into my turf very much. [/QUOTE]
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