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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 677022" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Which does not mean that you need to validate your sensitivity today, Leafy. That seems to be where you circle. What if you could come at this from a different perspective? Instead of: I really am so sensitive. I need you to believe me when I say I am sensitive and to not condemn me for being sensitive and I need you to welcome my sensitivity and set me up high because I am sensitive and let me be sensitive.</p><p></p><p>But "sensitive" is not your question, Leafy.</p><p></p><p>That is their question.</p><p></p><p>Whether you are too sensitive or not is their way they confused you and covered the damage they chose to inflict and are attempting, even today, to destroy your Danish.</p><p></p><p>You did see what you saw, Leafy. You did hear what you heard. </p><p></p><p>It was wrong, what they did.</p><p></p><p>What happened to you was wrong.</p><p></p><p>Sensitivity has nothing to do with it. </p><p></p><p>Sensitivity is their word.</p><p></p><p>***</p><p></p><p>Here is the thing, Leafy. To be human is to be sensitive. I think it is less a matter of degree than a matter of which aspect of self we have been curious enough about to emphasize. For all of us, I think this is true. Leafy, if you did not have to prove that what they told you was the matter with you is an okay way to be...how would the world look, then. </p><p></p><p>Leafy: What if there is nothing the matter with you. What if there is something very much the matter with...them? That is the true nature of the battle we fight, here on FOO Chronicles: Who is the liar, here. Me, or my beloved; my abusive beloved.</p><p></p><p>What if you could see New Leaf, from that changed perspective where, for once, you did not have to prove that the lie they told about what mattered about you matters?</p><p></p><p>It is like my mother telling me not to think. </p><p></p><p>What does that word mean to you, New Leaf? Sensitive. What does that mean?</p><p></p><p>That is the name of your prison.</p><p></p><p>Sensitive.</p><p></p><p>***</p><p></p><p>I like the material you found on the banality of evil.</p><p></p><p>It is insidious; we can only truly see it when we see what might have been, had the cascading chain of evil things not happened.</p><p></p><p>I agree that we need to go back to heal. We wonder, sometimes, whether there is an easier way than to confront the really awful emotional reality of what happened to us. I think this happens as we do heal, because the very things that seemed to outrageously horrifying in the beginning hold only sadness, only such sorrow that it happened at all, to anyone, and to us.</p><p></p><p>As we finally do heal, it just all seems to have been so cheap a thing to have hurt a child for.</p><p></p><p>The banality of evil.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 677022, member: 17461"] Which does not mean that you need to validate your sensitivity today, Leafy. That seems to be where you circle. What if you could come at this from a different perspective? Instead of: I really am so sensitive. I need you to believe me when I say I am sensitive and to not condemn me for being sensitive and I need you to welcome my sensitivity and set me up high because I am sensitive and let me be sensitive. But "sensitive" is not your question, Leafy. That is their question. Whether you are too sensitive or not is their way they confused you and covered the damage they chose to inflict and are attempting, even today, to destroy your Danish. You did see what you saw, Leafy. You did hear what you heard. It was wrong, what they did. What happened to you was wrong. Sensitivity has nothing to do with it. Sensitivity is their word. *** Here is the thing, Leafy. To be human is to be sensitive. I think it is less a matter of degree than a matter of which aspect of self we have been curious enough about to emphasize. For all of us, I think this is true. Leafy, if you did not have to prove that what they told you was the matter with you is an okay way to be...how would the world look, then. Leafy: What if there is nothing the matter with you. What if there is something very much the matter with...them? That is the true nature of the battle we fight, here on FOO Chronicles: Who is the liar, here. Me, or my beloved; my abusive beloved. What if you could see New Leaf, from that changed perspective where, for once, you did not have to prove that the lie they told about what mattered about you matters? It is like my mother telling me not to think. What does that word mean to you, New Leaf? Sensitive. What does that mean? That is the name of your prison. Sensitive. *** I like the material you found on the banality of evil. It is insidious; we can only truly see it when we see what might have been, had the cascading chain of evil things not happened. I agree that we need to go back to heal. We wonder, sometimes, whether there is an easier way than to confront the really awful emotional reality of what happened to us. I think this happens as we do heal, because the very things that seemed to outrageously horrifying in the beginning hold only sadness, only such sorrow that it happened at all, to anyone, and to us. As we finally do heal, it just all seems to have been so cheap a thing to have hurt a child for. The banality of evil. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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