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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 131683" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>been there done that with this one.</p><p></p><p>I would be talking to the school - this poor kid has had this word used at her, as an insult. She has picked up on the delivery that it is an insult, it's not a nice word and it's one which can be used to wound. And the way our kids pick this up - usually words that are used at t hem, to the best effect, become their strongest words to hurl at other people (and often at the same people who 'taught' her the word).</p><p></p><p>I got a note home once from difficult child 3's teacher (who was frankly a prize idiot) saying, "You must teach difficult child 3 to not use mean words at other kids. Today I head him call Steve 'fa***t retard'. He needs to learn that he will lose friends if he calls them names like this."</p><p>I wrote back to her saying, "You and I have known each other personally for years. You know our family, you know our household. You know that there is NO WAY that difficult child 3 would hear words like that used in our household. Have you considered that he is only repeating words which have been directed at him? That this ongoing name-calling is part of long-term bullying which has not been appropriately dealt with? It's quite possible that the child who difficult child 3 directed that insult at, is the same one who used the term at him. The name you mention is one that difficult child 3 regularly reports, as someone who hits him or verbally abuses him. That child is not a friend I would encourage difficult child 3 to mix with."</p><p></p><p>As for using alternative, innocuous words as acceptable substitutes - there are some great words. "Texas" is good. A friend of mine was once given a book of place names with alternate meanings. "Penang" is a city in Malaysia, a resort island. According to this books, it's also the sound a cat makes when it bounces off your hubcap. And a suburb of Sydney, Engadine - it's the sound a motorbike makes when you rev it. A lot of Aussie town names would make good substitute non-swear words - Wagga, for example. Bulli (pronounced "bull - eye").</p><p></p><p>And a digression, from the book "Limerick to Sydney" which was a compilation of limericks with Sydney place names - here is a non-limerick. </p><p>"She stood bare in the sea at Bulli Pass, </p><p>And the water came up to her knees. </p><p>This doesn't rhyme now, but it will when the tide comes in."</p><p></p><p>I'm also told that the most satisfying language in the world for swearing in, is Yugoslav.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 131683, member: 1991"] been there done that with this one. I would be talking to the school - this poor kid has had this word used at her, as an insult. She has picked up on the delivery that it is an insult, it's not a nice word and it's one which can be used to wound. And the way our kids pick this up - usually words that are used at t hem, to the best effect, become their strongest words to hurl at other people (and often at the same people who 'taught' her the word). I got a note home once from difficult child 3's teacher (who was frankly a prize idiot) saying, "You must teach difficult child 3 to not use mean words at other kids. Today I head him call Steve 'fa***t retard'. He needs to learn that he will lose friends if he calls them names like this." I wrote back to her saying, "You and I have known each other personally for years. You know our family, you know our household. You know that there is NO WAY that difficult child 3 would hear words like that used in our household. Have you considered that he is only repeating words which have been directed at him? That this ongoing name-calling is part of long-term bullying which has not been appropriately dealt with? It's quite possible that the child who difficult child 3 directed that insult at, is the same one who used the term at him. The name you mention is one that difficult child 3 regularly reports, as someone who hits him or verbally abuses him. That child is not a friend I would encourage difficult child 3 to mix with." As for using alternative, innocuous words as acceptable substitutes - there are some great words. "Texas" is good. A friend of mine was once given a book of place names with alternate meanings. "Penang" is a city in Malaysia, a resort island. According to this books, it's also the sound a cat makes when it bounces off your hubcap. And a suburb of Sydney, Engadine - it's the sound a motorbike makes when you rev it. A lot of Aussie town names would make good substitute non-swear words - Wagga, for example. Bulli (pronounced "bull - eye"). And a digression, from the book "Limerick to Sydney" which was a compilation of limericks with Sydney place names - here is a non-limerick. "She stood bare in the sea at Bulli Pass, And the water came up to her knees. This doesn't rhyme now, but it will when the tide comes in." I'm also told that the most satisfying language in the world for swearing in, is Yugoslav. Marg [/QUOTE]
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