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<blockquote data-quote="Smithmom" data-source="post: 743705" data-attributes="member: 23371"><p>Know this is hard but I know what happened to my kid when he got a girlfriend. Suddenly own place to live. Sometime job. Home every night. Huge lifestyle change. Hanging around family a good thing. Took some time to sink in that this was a better life. But ultimately he didnt want to go back. And I dont think ever will. Addiction may continue as it did with girlfriend. But living on sts I dont think again. </p><p></p><p>What I'm saying is that letting him set up job and housing of his own of any kind is his road to real life. Wont be road you choose or like. Mine used through all that. But it was growth. So your goal of medical may have to wait and may come on its own once hes ready. And job and housing is his first step.</p><p></p><p>Let me be clear how unacceptable it was. But I detached and said nothing. He was heavily using heroin as was co-dependent girlfriend. He od'd several times. He drove around while high constantly having accidents. He was selling heroin. It was a train wreck that I was watching. There was nothing I could do. I wouldn't call him because it would make me cry. If he called or showed up at my house it was a short conversation. Never wanted or asked for anything cause knew he wouldnt get anything but a meal. Did I see anything good? No. Hated co-dependent bimbo (and I'm working on changing that opinion since she's got 2 years clean now but I think still somewhat co-dependent on my kid in prison for 10 yrs!). It was horrible but it was his choice that I could not control. And it taught him that being homeless and alone was not what he wanted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Smithmom, post: 743705, member: 23371"] Know this is hard but I know what happened to my kid when he got a girlfriend. Suddenly own place to live. Sometime job. Home every night. Huge lifestyle change. Hanging around family a good thing. Took some time to sink in that this was a better life. But ultimately he didnt want to go back. And I dont think ever will. Addiction may continue as it did with girlfriend. But living on sts I dont think again. What I'm saying is that letting him set up job and housing of his own of any kind is his road to real life. Wont be road you choose or like. Mine used through all that. But it was growth. So your goal of medical may have to wait and may come on its own once hes ready. And job and housing is his first step. Let me be clear how unacceptable it was. But I detached and said nothing. He was heavily using heroin as was co-dependent girlfriend. He od'd several times. He drove around while high constantly having accidents. He was selling heroin. It was a train wreck that I was watching. There was nothing I could do. I wouldn't call him because it would make me cry. If he called or showed up at my house it was a short conversation. Never wanted or asked for anything cause knew he wouldnt get anything but a meal. Did I see anything good? No. Hated co-dependent bimbo (and I'm working on changing that opinion since she's got 2 years clean now but I think still somewhat co-dependent on my kid in prison for 10 yrs!). It was horrible but it was his choice that I could not control. And it taught him that being homeless and alone was not what he wanted. [/QUOTE]
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