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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 360368" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>There is a BIG difference between stealing at age 9 and stealing at age 15. At least in how managers of shops treat you. If she steals from Walmart they are required by corporate to press charges. </p><p></p><p>I don't know if all schools have them, but in my state most larger towns have them in at least the high school. My town has them in the high school, jr high and middle school. Some are better than others, and some are really not allowed to do all that they should by the actions of principals who don't want anyone to thing that the school is less than perfect. Our middle school is like that. </p><p></p><p>Docs often swear that medications cannot be doing this or that. You must be persistent with them and keep asking to change to X medication type. If you can find articles on the problem it can help a lot. Sometimes they will just give you whatever you ask for just to make you leave them alone, so you have to be careful.</p><p></p><p>I hope you can get help soon. </p><p></p><p>Oh, if PMIC is a psychiatric hospital type place, someplace difficult child lives, why would she have any belongings with-o her name on them? In each psychiatric hospital Wiz went to his name had to be written on ALL of his belongings. Or his number in the long term psychiatric hospital stay he had. Every sock, shirt, toothbrush, drawing, book, etc... HAD to have his name on it. Otherwise it was considered stolen. Period. Do the kids at your difficult child's PMIC not have to have their names in things? It would sure cut down on squabbles over who owns what and it would make it easier for adults to know if anything was stolen. I actually embroidered his number on his teddy bear. That way it could be removed when he got out. </p><p></p><p>I knew one mom who had a teen who stole. Almost anything she could. This mom not only sewed all pockets shut, she made sure outfits had her daughter's name on them. In GIANT letters written with a sharpie so that you could see her name on each piece. If darling daughter did not have her name in giant letters on the legs of the pants, then she stole pants somewhere. Ditto and so on. these letters were so big you could see them across a room. daughter had been caught shoplifting clothes when she was out with mom. She also ruined her siblings things when she took them. </p><p></p><p>You could do that with almost any of her things. SHE won't like the clothes, but if it is all she has to wear, what can she do? I would lock up all but the named items and only let her have 7 outfits or so. When she has straightened up then you can let her earn her clothes back. In fact, you could go to a thrift store and buy some stuff that will fit her but not be really appealing to her and write on those. Then you just lock up her other clothing. </p><p></p><p>Whatever you choose to do, {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 360368, member: 1233"] There is a BIG difference between stealing at age 9 and stealing at age 15. At least in how managers of shops treat you. If she steals from Walmart they are required by corporate to press charges. I don't know if all schools have them, but in my state most larger towns have them in at least the high school. My town has them in the high school, jr high and middle school. Some are better than others, and some are really not allowed to do all that they should by the actions of principals who don't want anyone to thing that the school is less than perfect. Our middle school is like that. Docs often swear that medications cannot be doing this or that. You must be persistent with them and keep asking to change to X medication type. If you can find articles on the problem it can help a lot. Sometimes they will just give you whatever you ask for just to make you leave them alone, so you have to be careful. I hope you can get help soon. Oh, if PMIC is a psychiatric hospital type place, someplace difficult child lives, why would she have any belongings with-o her name on them? In each psychiatric hospital Wiz went to his name had to be written on ALL of his belongings. Or his number in the long term psychiatric hospital stay he had. Every sock, shirt, toothbrush, drawing, book, etc... HAD to have his name on it. Otherwise it was considered stolen. Period. Do the kids at your difficult child's PMIC not have to have their names in things? It would sure cut down on squabbles over who owns what and it would make it easier for adults to know if anything was stolen. I actually embroidered his number on his teddy bear. That way it could be removed when he got out. I knew one mom who had a teen who stole. Almost anything she could. This mom not only sewed all pockets shut, she made sure outfits had her daughter's name on them. In GIANT letters written with a sharpie so that you could see her name on each piece. If darling daughter did not have her name in giant letters on the legs of the pants, then she stole pants somewhere. Ditto and so on. these letters were so big you could see them across a room. daughter had been caught shoplifting clothes when she was out with mom. She also ruined her siblings things when she took them. You could do that with almost any of her things. SHE won't like the clothes, but if it is all she has to wear, what can she do? I would lock up all but the named items and only let her have 7 outfits or so. When she has straightened up then you can let her earn her clothes back. In fact, you could go to a thrift store and buy some stuff that will fit her but not be really appealing to her and write on those. Then you just lock up her other clothing. Whatever you choose to do, {{{{{{hugs}}}}}} [/QUOTE]
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