Normally when difficult child goes to therapist, he goes in alone. I assumed they were talking and addressing the anger issues and social skill issues that were big concerns. This past week they called and requested that husband and I also come with difficult child. So, we all went in to his office. difficult child just kept telling therapist, he's not going to say anything because "I guarantee there will be a fight when we leave here". Kept repeating that over and over. therapist asked what we fight about. difficult child just looked at me. So, I said, "you". We fight about difficult child and his behavior, mostly with school. difficult child then said "it may start with me, but it ends up over anything even a peice of grass". I started laughing, then husband let out a little laugh. (difficult child was right though) We start off on one subject and pretty soon we are all arguing about things that have nothing to do with what we started with. therapist was talking and difficult child got up, went and got a tissue, started blowing his nose..over, and over, and over. Walked to the garbage can, started looking at things in tdocs office. I asked him to please sit down. Then pointed out to therapist that this is what he does in class. Teacher can be teaching and he just gets up and wanders around. difficult child laughed and said, "I am bored". He doesn't get it!!! You just can't start walking around in the middle of class!!! Had him evaluated for ADHD and was told no. therapist made a comment that really hurt me. He said, "Alex, this is the most you have ever talked. Most of the time all you tell me is how much you hate school and hate your mom". I was ready to cry. husband was there, and just made me feel bad. difficult child and I get into it a lot. difficult child does not talk to husband the way he talks to me. Wouldn't think of it. difficult child tells husband what happended at school, but seems to leave out the little details such as calling teacher names. husband doesn't believe me when I tell him what the school says when they call. So, I stopped taking calls. Let the teacher leave the message on the answering machine. husband wouldn't play it because difficult child "already told him". After about 3 or 4 hours I insisted he play it. husband was mad and mumbling things under his breath on how I'll make him listen to it. After he heard what kind of names difficult child called teacher and the whole situation he got angry and yelled at difficult child. Not that I am happy he got yelled at, I just want husband to hear what I hear every day!!! And then feel worse because husband doesn't believe me. So, difficult child hates me. Because I talk to the school? Because I try to give him consequences? Because I don't believe him? don't know, just know how depressed and sad I am feeling. Nobody believes what I say, other issues going on. Don't even want to walk the dogs anymore, and That was alwasy my outlet. Everyday, sometimes several times a day. Now I would rather just stay in bed and sleep. so, do you think difficult child tells everyone he hates me?