Another thread got me thinking, how do you know before hand what a therapists specialty is? I haven't met one that will tell me 'oh, I don't deal with your child's problems let me send to this other therapist instead.' difficult child 1 has some huge issues and no one I've met is willing to admit he is out of their league. (But we have had a few I've fired that he could manipulate to the moon and back.) So how do you find one that deals mostly with molestation, or Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), or abuse, or autism, or .... (insert any of our kids diagnosis.) I'm finding this comes into play mostly with husband. He won't go to therapy because most therapist here have no idea how to reach an adult with autism. It'd also be nice to get difficult child 1 in with a therapist that can help him work through the abuse.