For all of you struggling out there. There is hope. Those who remember me---I was katmom when I started, have been everywoman for years, but I don't post a lot these. My son was in awful shape from age 14 to 21. He spent years in and out of jail and psychiatric hospitals. He made life miserable for everyone around him. I sent him to jail several times for stealing and destruction of my home. He was one of the reason my marriage of 23 years failed. I learned detachment and kept my sanity, ex would have none of it and chose to abuse drugs to escape!!!! I still read and keep up with this group because for years, this was my only salvation. I don't post a lot because I really have no advice for anyone. I think we all walk this walk and hope the end is somewhere in sight. Hope is all you have when faced with a child who is bent to destroy himself. difficult child has been doing well for several years now. He has not had an arrest in almost 5 years!!! He has held the same job for almost 4 years and has been dating the same girl for almost 5 years. He is nice, polite, well-mannered. He has taken up hunting and fishing and really enjoys his time in the woods and on the water. He is pretty much self-sufficient although occasionally will call for a loan to make it to payday. He is planning to return to school this summer to study wild-life management. My hope is now that each of you and your children survive this part of your life. But know, that on the other end peace does exist!