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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 406934"><p>Wow. That sounds a little like my house. easy child in our house is usually asking difficult child to do or get things for him out of pure laziness. I have had many discussions with both. I usually intervene when he does that and remind him that "difficult child is farther away from X than you are" or "you want it, you get it" or (my personal favorite) "difficult child was not born to serve you". I also remind difficult child that it is nice to do things for easy child once in a while but that if he really doesn't want to, he doesn't have to. I also tell difficult child that he was not born to serve easy child. easy child usually gets angry but I play the broken record.</p><p> </p><p>We also have a couple rules in our house. <strong>It's done, it's over, now DROP it</strong> and <strong>If it wasn't important then, it's even less important now.</strong> I spend a lot of time getting both kids to realize that grudges don't solve or help anything and that keeping score won't work. easy child plays the always and never cards a lot and I play the elephant with all the memories. He HATES it when I easily list examples to the contrary of what he is saying. I so hate those words also. I REALLY like your idea about the A&N jar. I could get rich very quickly.</p><p> </p><p>Sorry you are having a rough morning. Sending {{(((HUGS)))}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 406934"] Wow. That sounds a little like my house. easy child in our house is usually asking difficult child to do or get things for him out of pure laziness. I have had many discussions with both. I usually intervene when he does that and remind him that "difficult child is farther away from X than you are" or "you want it, you get it" or (my personal favorite) "difficult child was not born to serve you". I also remind difficult child that it is nice to do things for easy child once in a while but that if he really doesn't want to, he doesn't have to. I also tell difficult child that he was not born to serve easy child. easy child usually gets angry but I play the broken record. We also have a couple rules in our house. [B]It's done, it's over, now DROP it[/B] and [B]If it wasn't important then, it's even less important now.[/B] I spend a lot of time getting both kids to realize that grudges don't solve or help anything and that keeping score won't work. easy child plays the always and never cards a lot and I play the elephant with all the memories. He HATES it when I easily list examples to the contrary of what he is saying. I so hate those words also. I REALLY like your idea about the A&N jar. I could get rich very quickly. Sorry you are having a rough morning. Sending {{(((HUGS)))}} [/QUOTE]
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