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<blockquote data-quote="compassion" data-source="post: 297937" data-attributes="member: 6393"><p>I agree with Heather and GVCmom. All I can do is forgive myself today, be gentle with me today, be non-judgmental today, non-critical today. We are not perfect. In my case, difficult child is expert at a manpulating out of guilt and fear and until not very long ago,was fairly successful at it. The less guilt I feel, the more I can love. It is very imortant to not to take blame. I think unitl there is a certain stabilty, growth level attained by difficult child, there can be quite a manipuliatve dance going on. I keep the focus on me today, No, difficult child DOES NOT like the limits but that is part of me being a an excellent mom to difficult child. </p><p> I cannot reason with difficult child in mainic rages,and many times not at other times either. I daily practie loving and kind compssionate words in a moderate tone of voice. I am much better at NOT reacting today.</p><p> I think it is vital also to have a support system that does not blame the parents.</p><p> This is a brain disoder, not a parenting dysfunction.</p><p> Compassion</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="compassion, post: 297937, member: 6393"] I agree with Heather and GVCmom. All I can do is forgive myself today, be gentle with me today, be non-judgmental today, non-critical today. We are not perfect. In my case, difficult child is expert at a manpulating out of guilt and fear and until not very long ago,was fairly successful at it. The less guilt I feel, the more I can love. It is very imortant to not to take blame. I think unitl there is a certain stabilty, growth level attained by difficult child, there can be quite a manipuliatve dance going on. I keep the focus on me today, No, difficult child DOES NOT like the limits but that is part of me being a an excellent mom to difficult child. I cannot reason with difficult child in mainic rages,and many times not at other times either. I daily practie loving and kind compssionate words in a moderate tone of voice. I am much better at NOT reacting today. I think it is vital also to have a support system that does not blame the parents. This is a brain disoder, not a parenting dysfunction. Compassion [/QUOTE]
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