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Think I just lost my best friend because of our difficult children
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 501687" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I hope that if you have been friends a long time then you can move past this in time. It really sounds like more was going on. I also wonder if she is just in crisis mode and not ready to accept the reality and/or extent of the addiction of her child and what addiction can do to you.</p><p></p><p>I do NOT agree that someone on drugs can't just walk by and decide to choke you for no reason at all. I have seen my brother go from find to psychotic/homicidal/abusive in 2 seconds for NO reason other than he "knew" what you were thinking. His aspie traits mean he is ALWAYS wrong about what he thinks that you are thinking. ALWAYS. He also if unmovable and if he decides what you are thinking/feeling then he is right and reality has no impact on anything. He does this with EVERYONE, not just family. I have seen him go and hit a total stranger because he was drunk/stoned and that person was "telling lies about him" or "wanting to hurt him" or "looking at him funny" when in reality that person didn't know he existed, wasn't looking at him, didn't want to hurt him or talk to him or breathe on him or anything else and never ever spoke about him or thought about him. Gfgbro just walked up to a total stranger and attacked when that stranger didn't even know gfgbro was on the planet.</p><p></p><p>It is worse if gfgbro knows you too. So this kid COULD have just gone off due to his intoxicated state, but it does seem unlikely. </p><p></p><p>You and your friend have to decide if your friendship is about your kids or this problem or if you can move on from this. It may take time, but it can improve from here. Be patient, understand that she probably doesn't understand the hold addiction has on her child or yours, and try to find other common ground and not talk about it. If you have been close for a long time then hopefully you can move on past this.</p><p></p><p>I know it hurts now though. (((((hugs)))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 501687, member: 1233"] I hope that if you have been friends a long time then you can move past this in time. It really sounds like more was going on. I also wonder if she is just in crisis mode and not ready to accept the reality and/or extent of the addiction of her child and what addiction can do to you. I do NOT agree that someone on drugs can't just walk by and decide to choke you for no reason at all. I have seen my brother go from find to psychotic/homicidal/abusive in 2 seconds for NO reason other than he "knew" what you were thinking. His aspie traits mean he is ALWAYS wrong about what he thinks that you are thinking. ALWAYS. He also if unmovable and if he decides what you are thinking/feeling then he is right and reality has no impact on anything. He does this with EVERYONE, not just family. I have seen him go and hit a total stranger because he was drunk/stoned and that person was "telling lies about him" or "wanting to hurt him" or "looking at him funny" when in reality that person didn't know he existed, wasn't looking at him, didn't want to hurt him or talk to him or breathe on him or anything else and never ever spoke about him or thought about him. Gfgbro just walked up to a total stranger and attacked when that stranger didn't even know gfgbro was on the planet. It is worse if gfgbro knows you too. So this kid COULD have just gone off due to his intoxicated state, but it does seem unlikely. You and your friend have to decide if your friendship is about your kids or this problem or if you can move on from this. It may take time, but it can improve from here. Be patient, understand that she probably doesn't understand the hold addiction has on her child or yours, and try to find other common ground and not talk about it. If you have been close for a long time then hopefully you can move on past this. I know it hurts now though. (((((hugs))))) [/QUOTE]
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