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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 384974"><p>Thanks all for your thoughts. Nancy I feel a connection to you too, it helps a lot to know others who really understand what we are going through. So from my point of view court went really well yesterday. I feel in this case the legal system really worked. So our son plead guilty to two counts and got a suspended sentance. He is ordered into a 90 day drug treatment and has to follow any follow on recommendations. He is on probation for 2 years and will have random drug screens. So we flew him down last night to this great treatment place and checked him in. My feeling to be honest is that 2 weeks in jail might have been the best thing to ever have happened to him. If he screws up again he could spend 18 months in jail and he really really does not want that. If ever there was external motivation this is it. And the nice thing is it is not on us. </p><p></p><p>So here is a case where tough love, letting them screw up, letting them face the consequences (not that we could have bailed him out anyway) worked. I mean we don't know yet if it will work long term, he may end up in jail again, but we and the system are definnitely giving him his best shot at turning things around. And he did not like jail enough that I think he has done some serious thinking and wants to turn things around.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 384974"] Thanks all for your thoughts. Nancy I feel a connection to you too, it helps a lot to know others who really understand what we are going through. So from my point of view court went really well yesterday. I feel in this case the legal system really worked. So our son plead guilty to two counts and got a suspended sentance. He is ordered into a 90 day drug treatment and has to follow any follow on recommendations. He is on probation for 2 years and will have random drug screens. So we flew him down last night to this great treatment place and checked him in. My feeling to be honest is that 2 weeks in jail might have been the best thing to ever have happened to him. If he screws up again he could spend 18 months in jail and he really really does not want that. If ever there was external motivation this is it. And the nice thing is it is not on us. So here is a case where tough love, letting them screw up, letting them face the consequences (not that we could have bailed him out anyway) worked. I mean we don't know yet if it will work long term, he may end up in jail again, but we and the system are definnitely giving him his best shot at turning things around. And he did not like jail enough that I think he has done some serious thinking and wants to turn things around. [/QUOTE]
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