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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 597951" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>You are in really tough and stressful situation. One thing you have to keep in mind is, that you are not responsible of his well being, you have kids and yourself to worry first. So how he would do if you left shouldn't be part of equation. </p><p></p><p>He really seems like good guy and good husband and father most of the time and before his sickness. Thing is that those kind of blow ups, even irregular are extremely taxing for you and very bad for the kids. If that would be, what it will be always in future, I would advice you to leave. But of course he is middle of finding right medications, his work situation is extremely stressful, your financial situation is stressful, he is just in very rough patch right now and things could turn much better again in future.</p><p></p><p>Maybe you shouldn't decide right now? Keep making choices that will keep both options open in future. Keep also mentally preparing for both staying and leaving. And give yourself a deadline to decide, because it is easy to get stuck when there seems to be hope in future and then notice that you stayed in bad situation for 10 or 30 years and are bitter. Maybe you could decide, that you need significant improvement before June 2014. If there hasn't been any, that is when you leave for separate ways.</p><p></p><p>Just my two cents. I'm sorry you and your husband are having such a hard time right now. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/hugs.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hugs:" title="hugs :hugs:" data-shortname=":hugs:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 597951, member: 14557"] You are in really tough and stressful situation. One thing you have to keep in mind is, that you are not responsible of his well being, you have kids and yourself to worry first. So how he would do if you left shouldn't be part of equation. He really seems like good guy and good husband and father most of the time and before his sickness. Thing is that those kind of blow ups, even irregular are extremely taxing for you and very bad for the kids. If that would be, what it will be always in future, I would advice you to leave. But of course he is middle of finding right medications, his work situation is extremely stressful, your financial situation is stressful, he is just in very rough patch right now and things could turn much better again in future. Maybe you shouldn't decide right now? Keep making choices that will keep both options open in future. Keep also mentally preparing for both staying and leaving. And give yourself a deadline to decide, because it is easy to get stuck when there seems to be hope in future and then notice that you stayed in bad situation for 10 or 30 years and are bitter. Maybe you could decide, that you need significant improvement before June 2014. If there hasn't been any, that is when you leave for separate ways. Just my two cents. I'm sorry you and your husband are having such a hard time right now. :hugs: [/QUOTE]
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