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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 597963" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi, hon.</p><p></p><p>Nobody can tell you whether to leave or stay. If there is a Codapendents Anynamous group near you, that may help you learn how to detach and take care of yourself and your kids, letting him make his own choices. I am going to Al-Anon, which is similar, because of my oldest child and I'm getting my life back. It was getting to the point that my whole life was becoming wrapped around my mentally ill, abusive, dysfunctional son and his problems and I was losing myself. But I went to CODA because my physically ill first husband was really mean to me and I thought I had to put up with it because he was sick. I didn't know that even the ill do not have a right to abuse others.</p><p></p><p>You can try NAMI too (National Alliance for the Mentally Ill), but I think that NAMI is more an advocate group for those who have mental illness, however I have never been able to get to a NAMI meeting. Our NAMI is pretty far from here and the meetings are too late for me. So I'm not sure if that would be helpful to you or not.</p><p></p><p>If there is no CODA there, I highly recommend going for help at a low to no charge mental health clinic to learn to take care of yourself and detach from your husband when he is abusive. After you get your footing, you can decide what you want to do in the long term. </p><p></p><p>Gentle hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 597963, member: 1550"] Hi, hon. Nobody can tell you whether to leave or stay. If there is a Codapendents Anynamous group near you, that may help you learn how to detach and take care of yourself and your kids, letting him make his own choices. I am going to Al-Anon, which is similar, because of my oldest child and I'm getting my life back. It was getting to the point that my whole life was becoming wrapped around my mentally ill, abusive, dysfunctional son and his problems and I was losing myself. But I went to CODA because my physically ill first husband was really mean to me and I thought I had to put up with it because he was sick. I didn't know that even the ill do not have a right to abuse others. You can try NAMI too (National Alliance for the Mentally Ill), but I think that NAMI is more an advocate group for those who have mental illness, however I have never been able to get to a NAMI meeting. Our NAMI is pretty far from here and the meetings are too late for me. So I'm not sure if that would be helpful to you or not. If there is no CODA there, I highly recommend going for help at a low to no charge mental health clinic to learn to take care of yourself and detach from your husband when he is abusive. After you get your footing, you can decide what you want to do in the long term. Gentle hugs. [/QUOTE]
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