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<blockquote data-quote="Liahona" data-source="post: 598126"><p>Sorry I haven't responded before. difficult children are being more difficult child than normal. You know about my husband and him pushing difficult child 1. He also has other problems with money, kids, work, school, church, extended family, you get the idea. Lots of problems. He is also trying as hard as he can. A few months after we got married he started losing his hair in round patches because of the stress. Just 2 days ago I noticed new spots. And he is changing, but very slowly. And he is incredibly loyal to me. He has stood by me when no one else in the world would. There are some issues that I will divorce him over. Money being one of them. He will go on spending sprees when he gets stressed out and spend thousands of $. This leaves us with nothing for diapers, food, or bills, and it takes months to recover from. Now when he gets paid I put it into an account he can't get to. I pay bills from that account. It isn't a husband proof plan, but so far it is working for us. Another issue I would divorce him for is his recent behavior with the kids. Talking about it more with him than I already have won't do squat. After his school is done I am going to set up an appointment with a therapist for Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) adults and if he goes he can be married. I think he will go. </p><p></p><p>I wouldn't divorce him over most of the issues he has just the ones that make it so we can't function as a family. And even those I will explore every other possiblitly and give him every chance to change first. Just like he has with me and my issues. </p><p></p><p>Someone to think about as well is mr.lewis. If you divorce he will probably have visitation. How will your husband do? Isn't your husband also still recovering from head surgery? Did they find out what was causing him to act out? Could you and husband agree before hand that if you need a break from him that you and the kids will go for a walk but that you will come back and talk about the issue more calmly? Would that work or would he just be more agitated when you get back? Are there other behavior strategies you and husband could use to lessen or stop the acting out?</p><p></p><p>Anything emotional I know we will fight on is done through email. Lots easier to take out the emotion.</p><p></p><p>You and your family will be in my prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Liahona, post: 598126"] Sorry I haven't responded before. difficult children are being more difficult child than normal. You know about my husband and him pushing difficult child 1. He also has other problems with money, kids, work, school, church, extended family, you get the idea. Lots of problems. He is also trying as hard as he can. A few months after we got married he started losing his hair in round patches because of the stress. Just 2 days ago I noticed new spots. And he is changing, but very slowly. And he is incredibly loyal to me. He has stood by me when no one else in the world would. There are some issues that I will divorce him over. Money being one of them. He will go on spending sprees when he gets stressed out and spend thousands of $. This leaves us with nothing for diapers, food, or bills, and it takes months to recover from. Now when he gets paid I put it into an account he can't get to. I pay bills from that account. It isn't a husband proof plan, but so far it is working for us. Another issue I would divorce him for is his recent behavior with the kids. Talking about it more with him than I already have won't do squat. After his school is done I am going to set up an appointment with a therapist for Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) adults and if he goes he can be married. I think he will go. I wouldn't divorce him over most of the issues he has just the ones that make it so we can't function as a family. And even those I will explore every other possiblitly and give him every chance to change first. Just like he has with me and my issues. Someone to think about as well is mr.lewis. If you divorce he will probably have visitation. How will your husband do? Isn't your husband also still recovering from head surgery? Did they find out what was causing him to act out? Could you and husband agree before hand that if you need a break from him that you and the kids will go for a walk but that you will come back and talk about the issue more calmly? Would that work or would he just be more agitated when you get back? Are there other behavior strategies you and husband could use to lessen or stop the acting out? Anything emotional I know we will fight on is done through email. Lots easier to take out the emotion. You and your family will be in my prayers. [/QUOTE]
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