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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 465837" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>UGH.</p><p></p><p>There are way too many layers going on here.</p><p>And there is no way you can fix any of them in a week.</p><p></p><p>But your 16yo is a <em>teenage boy</em> first and foremost.</p><p>Which means - he needs really solid male role models and male bonding and real GUY time.</p><p>As in, this may well be more important than any other need right now.</p><p></p><p>I'm guessing husband kinda gets this part of it - but not his role in the whole picture. So, he's trying to "bond" without being around to <u>really bond</u>... </p><p></p><p>Even if your 16yo was a young lady instead, you would still have the same problem... </p><p></p><p>Your teenager needs Dad. As in, <em><u><strong>home</strong></u></em> MOST of the time. Available to be the heavy when necessary, to put an alternative spin on "Mom-talk" (i.e. same message different words).</p><p></p><p>Sorry, I know this isn't what you want to hear with only a week left.</p><p>What can be done to get that message through to husband?</p><p>And what kind of other supports, processes, etc. need to be put in place?</p><p>And what should the medium-term plan be? i.e. probably unrealistic for him to quit before THIS trip away...</p><p></p><p>{{hugs}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 465837, member: 11791"] UGH. There are way too many layers going on here. And there is no way you can fix any of them in a week. But your 16yo is a [I]teenage boy[/I] first and foremost. Which means - he needs really solid male role models and male bonding and real GUY time. As in, this may well be more important than any other need right now. I'm guessing husband kinda gets this part of it - but not his role in the whole picture. So, he's trying to "bond" without being around to [U]really bond[/U]... Even if your 16yo was a young lady instead, you would still have the same problem... Your teenager needs Dad. As in, [I][U][B]home[/B][/U][/I] MOST of the time. Available to be the heavy when necessary, to put an alternative spin on "Mom-talk" (i.e. same message different words). Sorry, I know this isn't what you want to hear with only a week left. What can be done to get that message through to husband? And what kind of other supports, processes, etc. need to be put in place? And what should the medium-term plan be? i.e. probably unrealistic for him to quit before THIS trip away... {{hugs}} [/QUOTE]
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