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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 598316" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>You can get a net10 prepaid phone for ten dollars and get 750 min per month for 25 bucks. Texts are billed as a minute or less, and even online things are billed as minutes. </p><p></p><p>You NEED to set some boundaries and tell your mom to butt out. When she cried and gave you a guilt trip it was another way to control you. Stop telling her things about the kids. Period. When she asks, tell her you are taking care of it.</p><p></p><p>FYI, don't you DARE give in to her guilt trip over taking your child to the doctor for tonsillitis/sore throat. Our country, in fact most of the first world nations (US, UK, etc...) are seeing a substantial increase in the cases of serious illnesses. One serious illness is called Lemierres and is caused by a bacteria that causes sore throats. If you don't get antibiotics, it can go into a severe infection IN YOUR BRAIN that needs BRAIN SURGERY and can have you sick for MONTHS AND MONTHS or else it KILLS YOU. MANY docs don't know what it is. It goes from a sore throat or tonsillitis to an abscess to the brain and it takes very little time. I saw a thing on youtube a year or two ago after a kid at our middle school almost died from it. School sent home a note saying that if your child has a sore throat they need to see the doctor and have a culture taken and be pain and fever free for 24 hrs before returning to school. They require a note that says that the child can return AND that a culture has been taken. Permission to return from a doctor is not enough, they MUST have a culture done also and document it. If parents cannot afford it and do not qualify for medcaid then the school nurse has a fund to pay for the cultures and doctor visits as the school feels it is so important.</p><p></p><p>tell your mother that she is home, it is taken care of, and your mother needs to take her nagging insults and apply them to her own life, that you are following the school and the doctor's orders and you will NOT EVER play games iwth her health. Tell her that difficult child has sixty to eighty more years of life and she can get her education over another year or two if needed, but only if she survives to live that long. You are doing what you must to ensure that she survives that long, and ignoring infections are one of the BEST ways to ensure that seh does not live long enough to get that education. </p><p></p><p>You can always turn the tables and ask how many kids difficult child needs to infect before it is okay to follow school policy and stay home? will your mom send a note to the parents of the eight or ten or fifteen or thirty other kids so that their parents know taht a contagious child is coming to school because their children are not as important as difficult child so it is okay if they get an infection? If your momis willing to do that, then sure, she can fly home and take difficult child to school against the doctor and school rules if she wants. If not, she can SHUT UP and mind her own business. I am serious about this. I had to do it with an aunt once and when I asked which eight parents she was ready to go inform that they would get sick but it was okay because that was not as important as allowing my child to be at school, well, she shut the heck up on that front. She did NOT want to face those parents. Of course I chose ones she knew that she did NOT want to deal with again (she had been the swim instructor for their kids and hated the moms because they hovered and nagged and were general PITA's - you know, the "Johnny is the best swimmer but you are the reason he cannot even put his face in the water and you are holding him back from the Olympics that he would be in by now (age four, of course) because you are just jealous that you are not the mom of such an amazing prodigy at everything" type of parent. I am evil enough to have chosen those parents as the ones she should contact, lol.</p><p></p><p>Plus, there are a LOT of was for a child to get an education. Regular school is NOT the only way, nor is it the best way for all kids. For some it is totaly ineffective and for others? A boring nuisance that creates more problems than it solves. Education s one of the most important things in life, but it is NOT something that everyone needs to do at the same time. A bad year now does NOT mean that difficult child is not going to learn. It means she may need an extra year or two to learn what others are learning now. But going to school and infecting everyone else? Stupid and wrong. </p><p></p><p>Mostly this issue is NOT about your difficult child at all. It is about controlling YOU. when you have the confidence to stand up and say , "I am the parent and I will deal iwth this as I see fit. You areNOT the parent, and your input is not helping so you need to leave this alone if you want to be in my life." Then she can leave it alone or choose to be removed from your life. But YOU must be strong enough to follow through with her as well as with difficult child. NONE of this is about difficult child or difficult child's education. It is about you and your mom controlling you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 598316, member: 1233"] You can get a net10 prepaid phone for ten dollars and get 750 min per month for 25 bucks. Texts are billed as a minute or less, and even online things are billed as minutes. You NEED to set some boundaries and tell your mom to butt out. When she cried and gave you a guilt trip it was another way to control you. Stop telling her things about the kids. Period. When she asks, tell her you are taking care of it. FYI, don't you DARE give in to her guilt trip over taking your child to the doctor for tonsillitis/sore throat. Our country, in fact most of the first world nations (US, UK, etc...) are seeing a substantial increase in the cases of serious illnesses. One serious illness is called Lemierres and is caused by a bacteria that causes sore throats. If you don't get antibiotics, it can go into a severe infection IN YOUR BRAIN that needs BRAIN SURGERY and can have you sick for MONTHS AND MONTHS or else it KILLS YOU. MANY docs don't know what it is. It goes from a sore throat or tonsillitis to an abscess to the brain and it takes very little time. I saw a thing on youtube a year or two ago after a kid at our middle school almost died from it. School sent home a note saying that if your child has a sore throat they need to see the doctor and have a culture taken and be pain and fever free for 24 hrs before returning to school. They require a note that says that the child can return AND that a culture has been taken. Permission to return from a doctor is not enough, they MUST have a culture done also and document it. If parents cannot afford it and do not qualify for medcaid then the school nurse has a fund to pay for the cultures and doctor visits as the school feels it is so important. tell your mother that she is home, it is taken care of, and your mother needs to take her nagging insults and apply them to her own life, that you are following the school and the doctor's orders and you will NOT EVER play games iwth her health. Tell her that difficult child has sixty to eighty more years of life and she can get her education over another year or two if needed, but only if she survives to live that long. You are doing what you must to ensure that she survives that long, and ignoring infections are one of the BEST ways to ensure that seh does not live long enough to get that education. You can always turn the tables and ask how many kids difficult child needs to infect before it is okay to follow school policy and stay home? will your mom send a note to the parents of the eight or ten or fifteen or thirty other kids so that their parents know taht a contagious child is coming to school because their children are not as important as difficult child so it is okay if they get an infection? If your momis willing to do that, then sure, she can fly home and take difficult child to school against the doctor and school rules if she wants. If not, she can SHUT UP and mind her own business. I am serious about this. I had to do it with an aunt once and when I asked which eight parents she was ready to go inform that they would get sick but it was okay because that was not as important as allowing my child to be at school, well, she shut the heck up on that front. She did NOT want to face those parents. Of course I chose ones she knew that she did NOT want to deal with again (she had been the swim instructor for their kids and hated the moms because they hovered and nagged and were general PITA's - you know, the "Johnny is the best swimmer but you are the reason he cannot even put his face in the water and you are holding him back from the Olympics that he would be in by now (age four, of course) because you are just jealous that you are not the mom of such an amazing prodigy at everything" type of parent. I am evil enough to have chosen those parents as the ones she should contact, lol. Plus, there are a LOT of was for a child to get an education. Regular school is NOT the only way, nor is it the best way for all kids. For some it is totaly ineffective and for others? A boring nuisance that creates more problems than it solves. Education s one of the most important things in life, but it is NOT something that everyone needs to do at the same time. A bad year now does NOT mean that difficult child is not going to learn. It means she may need an extra year or two to learn what others are learning now. But going to school and infecting everyone else? Stupid and wrong. Mostly this issue is NOT about your difficult child at all. It is about controlling YOU. when you have the confidence to stand up and say , "I am the parent and I will deal iwth this as I see fit. You areNOT the parent, and your input is not helping so you need to leave this alone if you want to be in my life." Then she can leave it alone or choose to be removed from your life. But YOU must be strong enough to follow through with her as well as with difficult child. NONE of this is about difficult child or difficult child's education. It is about you and your mom controlling you. [/QUOTE]
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