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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 357697" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>The habitual stealing and hiding and eating foods that people do not normally eat out of the package, is very disturbing. I see that as very strong indications that something is going on here. It is also not common for a 12 year old to have had a mouth for 2 years and be so disrespectful of curfews. Kids this age do start to push some of the boundary issues but usually not so strongly.</p><p> </p><p>I hope you can find a doctor, or psychiatrist who can put these pieces together to help her. I know it can be so frustrating to come to so many blocks in the road in your search for answers. Keep at it - stay strong!</p><p> </p><p>Don't be embarrassed to tell the teachers anything. You are protecting everyone in doing so. They have the right to know and since they do know, they can be part of the team to help monitor that behavior. I just hope there will not be a teacher that will automatically accuse your child because of this info. One time I did blow at a substitute teacher because a year after my son's behavior issues, she would not believe what he said and told him, "Welll, you have a history of doing this." She obviously didn't know the meaning of history, as in the past. difficult child was past that behavior and would not lie. difficult child had come home and said, "Mom, why is she treating me like I am still doing things? I have changed - why can't people give me a chance to prove it?"</p><p> </p><p>I think she may be scared of what her future holds. She is afraid of your illness and is trying to put on a strong front - figuring out how to take care of herself before she really looses the person who takes care of her. Building a wall around her so life's cruelty can not touch her.</p><p> </p><p>You do however, have to find a way to figure out what she is up to when she leaves the house. Does she have access to a computer? My Space is a very dangerous place for her to hook up with the wrong people. My Diva had no end of friends who would assure her that I was the horrid evil parent that she portrayed and that she had every right to live as she wanted to. With friends backing up her every move, it makes it easier to become more disrespectful. I am fortunate that my Diva has not fallen into danger over this, but preditors are quick to find these kids who are trying to fend for themselves and show disrespect to parents. They will lure kids away with a promise of the ability to do whatever they want.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 357697, member: 5096"] The habitual stealing and hiding and eating foods that people do not normally eat out of the package, is very disturbing. I see that as very strong indications that something is going on here. It is also not common for a 12 year old to have had a mouth for 2 years and be so disrespectful of curfews. Kids this age do start to push some of the boundary issues but usually not so strongly. I hope you can find a doctor, or psychiatrist who can put these pieces together to help her. I know it can be so frustrating to come to so many blocks in the road in your search for answers. Keep at it - stay strong! Don't be embarrassed to tell the teachers anything. You are protecting everyone in doing so. They have the right to know and since they do know, they can be part of the team to help monitor that behavior. I just hope there will not be a teacher that will automatically accuse your child because of this info. One time I did blow at a substitute teacher because a year after my son's behavior issues, she would not believe what he said and told him, "Welll, you have a history of doing this." She obviously didn't know the meaning of history, as in the past. difficult child was past that behavior and would not lie. difficult child had come home and said, "Mom, why is she treating me like I am still doing things? I have changed - why can't people give me a chance to prove it?" I think she may be scared of what her future holds. She is afraid of your illness and is trying to put on a strong front - figuring out how to take care of herself before she really looses the person who takes care of her. Building a wall around her so life's cruelty can not touch her. You do however, have to find a way to figure out what she is up to when she leaves the house. Does she have access to a computer? My Space is a very dangerous place for her to hook up with the wrong people. My Diva had no end of friends who would assure her that I was the horrid evil parent that she portrayed and that she had every right to live as she wanted to. With friends backing up her every move, it makes it easier to become more disrespectful. I am fortunate that my Diva has not fallen into danger over this, but preditors are quick to find these kids who are trying to fend for themselves and show disrespect to parents. They will lure kids away with a promise of the ability to do whatever they want. [/QUOTE]
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