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Those of us with- narcissistic parents- do you attract narcissist friends?
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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 550599" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>I think this is one of those areas in life where being an Aspie has helped me.</p><p></p><p>My father is a narcissist (and a sociopath, but that's not the topic here). When I was growing up, my mother and brother constantly sought his approval, did his bidding, and let him ride roughshod over them to keep the peace and stop his relentless bullying of them. I didn't. I didn't much care for his approval one way or another. Strangely, I was sort of his favourite (if someone who loves only himself can have a non-self favourite), and was subject to far less bullying than the others.</p><p></p><p>There are a few narcissists in my life nowadays, but they seem to understand that I don't need or want their approval. And they have experienced me getting up and walking out in mid-sentence when they cross my boundaries, so they don't tend to push me too far. Strangely, the few of them seem to be trying in their various ways to get MY approval, which I find funny since I'm in no way responsible for them or their decisions. I guess they have to be under or over, but can't just be happy at equilibrium. Since I refuse to be under, they seem to want to occupy that space, which also tries my patience.</p><p></p><p>Maybe this is why I'm a hermit...</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 550599, member: 3907"] I think this is one of those areas in life where being an Aspie has helped me. My father is a narcissist (and a sociopath, but that's not the topic here). When I was growing up, my mother and brother constantly sought his approval, did his bidding, and let him ride roughshod over them to keep the peace and stop his relentless bullying of them. I didn't. I didn't much care for his approval one way or another. Strangely, I was sort of his favourite (if someone who loves only himself can have a non-self favourite), and was subject to far less bullying than the others. There are a few narcissists in my life nowadays, but they seem to understand that I don't need or want their approval. And they have experienced me getting up and walking out in mid-sentence when they cross my boundaries, so they don't tend to push me too far. Strangely, the few of them seem to be trying in their various ways to get MY approval, which I find funny since I'm in no way responsible for them or their decisions. I guess they have to be under or over, but can't just be happy at equilibrium. Since I refuse to be under, they seem to want to occupy that space, which also tries my patience. Maybe this is why I'm a hermit... Trinity [/QUOTE]
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